Light Travels Holographic Reflections

#5 - Meet the Master of the Present Moment...

Carolyn Winter — Thu, 23 Apr 2026 16:44:12 GMT

Clarity, Presence, and Unconditional Love...

There place on your inner map where love and clarity stand together. It is a living practice—renewed moment by moment—where you meet life as it is, feel what you feel without being flooded, and choose responses that are both kind and clean. This is the Master of the Present Moment lookout point.

From this position, agency (your capacity to choose and act deliberately) stays supple rather than turning into control, and compassion stays rooted rather than dissolving into self‑abandonment. You hold wise limits without closing your heart. You let anger and grief move through as signals, not verdicts. You pair forgiveness with accountability. You make timely choices aligned with your values, and you allow others to own theirs.

Why This Matters For Your Next Level of Growth
Every lookout point has default settings that feel normal from the inside. At Master, the defaults are conscious: pause, presence, choice. The real gift is steadiness under pressure—you keep your power in your own hands and you distinguish love from pleasing. Naming this location is orientation, a way to return to yourself when it matters most. You see clearly, you love unconditionally, and you act with discernment in real time.

What Spiraling Upward Looks
Life Mastery is humble and practical. You stay centered and connected instead of elevating above the group. You ask consent before offering support and listen first. You regulate your body and breath so you can feel deeply without being swept away. You make candid, timely decisions and communicate with context and care. You treat clear measures of progress (metrics) and feedback as allies that help you learn and course‑correct without losing your center.

A Story In Practice
Maya, a mid‑manager in a fast‑growing tech team, used to swing between two lookout points. In tough weeks, she’d slip into Victim—waiting for senior leadership to notice problems, saying yes to everything, and feeling resentful and powerless. Under pressure, she’d flip to Manipulator—tightening control, hoarding information, and “giving to get” from her peers. The team felt whiplash, morale dipped, and Maya went home exhausted. After doing the Lookout Point repatterning a few times, she began practicing Master moves: a daily pause to feel, breathe, and choose; writing one clear boundary a week (“Here’s what we can deliver by Friday; here’s what needs a new date”); and sharing a simple dashboard of outcomes everyone could see. She started more often to ask for consent before offering guidance and listened first in 1:1s. Within a month, things at work improved for her and the team. Two team leads stepped up because there was space to own their work. Escalations and arguments dropped, delivery became more predictable, and Maya’s job satisfaction rose—less firefighting, more coaching. The work didn’t get easier; her stance got steadier, and the team grew around that steadiness.

Signs You’re Stepping Into Mastery
You notice the beat between stimulus and response and use it. You can name a boundary without blame. You welcome strong emotions as data and let them inform, not drive. You choose curiosity over fixing. You tell the truth and stay kind. You make clear agreements and keep them—or renegotiate transparently.

Coherent Practices To Anchor
Return to the body: breathe, feel, choose. Pair compassion with clear limits. Let forgiveness and accountability arrive together. Make the next right, doable move. Speak plainly and kindly. Use simple, visible measures of what matters to course‑correct early. Keep your heart open and your feet on the ground.

Reflective Questions For Your Master Lookout Point
Where, today, can you pause long enough to choose rather than react? What boundary, clearly and kindly named, would create more honesty and connection? What is one timely decision you’ve been softening that you could make now with context and care?

How the Lookout Point Repatterning Helps
In the Lookout Point Repatterning, we identify where you already touch this stance and where old patterns pull you off center. We bring awareness to subtle regressions—spiritual bypass, image‑management, peacekeeping at the cost of truth—and repattern toward grounded presence: unconditional regard with wise limits, clarity with compassion, choice over habit.

What’s Coming Next?
If you’re sensing this lookout point calling you, join the April 27 PHD session where we’ll practice these shifts in real scenarios. If you can’t attend live, the recording will be in the Premium member archives so you can return to it as needed. Join as a Premium member here Become A Member

"Love holds, clarity guides, and practice makes it real—where will you choose to stand in your very next conversation?"

With Love and Light
Carolyn

Carolyn Winter
Life Repatterning Coach

P.S. Ready to place yourself on the map? Explore the full Lookout Point series—Victim, Manipulator, Deluded Heart, and Master—right here Explore the series →

#4. when Love Over-gives: Meet the Deluded Heart Lookout Point

Carolyn Winter — Thu, 16 Apr 2026 19:32:19 GMT

There is a beautiful, earnest place in many of us that wants to love without limits, to believe the best, to say yes because yes feels kind. When this impulse overextends without discernment, we enter what I call the Deluded Heart lookout point—a territory where generosity blurs into self-abandonment, and hope quietly overrides what reality keeps showing us.

From this position on the inner map, we try to create safety and connection by overgiving. We minimize our needs, overlook red flags, and avoid hard conversations because harmony seems synonymous with love. We help past our capacity, tell ourselves “it’ll work out,” and tolerate patterns that drain us. The heart is sincere here; the trouble is that compassion, untethered from clarity, becomes enabling rather than care.

Why This Matters For Your Next Level of Growth

Every lookout point carries its own default settings—ways of seeing and responding that feel normal from the inside. In the Deluded Heart territory, those defaults sound like: “If I love harder, it will change,” “Saying no is unkind,” or “If I just stay positive, the hard parts will resolve.” Naming this location is not a judgment; it’s orientation. When you can see that these tendencies belong to the territory rather than your essence, a new path opens: compassion paired with discernment, love held within wise limits, relationships built on present reality rather than potential.

What Spiralling Upward Looks Like

Spiralling up from the Deluded Heart doesn’t mean withdrawing love or hardening your stance. It means letting love mature. In practice, that looks like offering clear yeses and honest noes that honor your capacity; trusting what reality shows you while still seeing the good; naming and upholding boundaries as acts of love for everyone involved; and turning hope into aligned, consistent action. You can welcome your feelings as data without rushing to fix them, tell the truth about your hurt, and let accountability be part of repair.

In Life Repatterning terms, we’re repatterning from “I keep the peace by absorbing the cost” to “I co-create real peace through clarity, choice, and shared responsibility.” As you embody these coherent stances, you’ll notice your energy stabilize, your self-respect deepen, and your connections become more mutual and resilient.

Signs You May Be At The Deluded Heart Lookout Point

You say yes to avoid disappointing others—and pay for it later in resentment or burnout.
You gloss over anger or skip necessary truth-telling and call it compassion.
You accept apologies without requiring changed behavior.
You stay for potential while the present pattern keeps hurting.
You equate being liked with being valued.

Coherent Shifts To Practice

Offer what you can sustain, and invite others to carry their share. Pair intuition with discernment and real-world feedback. Ask for what you need and allow the relationship to recalibrate. Receive repair through accountability and consistent change. Express unconditional regard—and keep boundaries that protect what matters.

Reflective Questions For Your Deluded Heart Lookout Point

Where are you saying yes from fear of losing connection rather than from generosity?
If you believed that boundaries are love in motion, what one conversation would you have this week?
What would change if you chose relationships based on present patterns instead of future potential?

How The Deluded Heart Repatterning Helps

In the Lookout Point Repatterning process, we identify where the Deluded Heart shows up in a specific area of life—relationships, work, creativity, or your spiritual path. We bring kind awareness to the beliefs and habits of this territory and gently spiral you toward more coherent choices: compassion with clarity, kindness with candor, hope with follow-through. The aim isn’t to shut your heart; it’s to give your heart a frame sturdy enough to hold real love.

What’s Coming Next

If this lookout point feels familiar, you’re not alone—and you’re not stuck here. In our upcoming Personal Holographic Discoveries session on April 27, we’ll work directly with these patterns and practice the shifts that create true reciprocity and self-regard. If you can’t attend live, the recording will be available in the PHD archives for Premium members.

"Love and discernment grow together. When they do, your yes carries power, your no carries care, and your heart can stay open without losing itself."

With love and light,

Carolyn

#3 - “When Control Feels Safer Than Connection: The Manipulator Lookout Point”

Carolyn Winter — Mon, 06 Apr 2026 21:14:40 GMT

Some of us don’t feel safe waiting for life to happen; we lean in, manage, and try to control outcomes wherever we can. If you find yourself “giving to get,” curating your image, or keeping subtle emotional score, you may be operating from the Manipulator lookout point. On the personal development map, this point trades genuine connection for control, using conditions and leverage to feel safe while staying blind to deeper patterns.

From the Manipulator territory, inner scripts might sound like: “I give to get; every favor puts others in my debt,” “I suppress vulnerability so no one can use it against me,” or “I micromanage because others can’t be trusted.” These strategies often began as intelligent protection, especially in environments where being transparent or vulnerable really wasn’t safe. Over time, however, they can leave us feeling alone, over-responsible, and suspicious of others’ motives.

Spiralling upward from this lookout point doesn’t mean abandoning boundaries; it means discovering a more coherent way to hold power and influence. Coherent stances here sound like: “I contribute freely and let reciprocity emerge naturally,” “I regulate myself and let others own their emotions,” and “I make honest commitments and resource them well.” As we practice these new positions, we find we can live with more transparency and trust without losing our sense of safety.

Reflective questions for your Manipulator lookout point:

Where do you notice yourself giving with an invisible ledger running in the background?
What would change in one relationship if you practiced: “I show up authentically; respect grows from honesty”?
If you relaxed control by just 5%, what support might become visible?

In the April 27 PHD session, we’ll also work with the Manipulator Territory patterns, bringing awareness and compassion to the ways control has been a safety strategy—and how to spiral up into transparent reciprocity and unconditional love. If you recognize some of these patterns in your leadership, business, or relationships, this exploration can be a powerful reset. Save the date or find the recording later in the PHD archives library available with a Premium membership on LightTravels.com.

with love and light

Carolyn

#2 - Is Life Just Happening To You? Meet the Victim Lookout Point

Carolyn Winter — Tue, 31 Mar 2026 15:51:25 GMT

Have you ever felt like life is mostly something that happens to you, while you scramble to keep up? You may be living from what I call the Victim lookout point on your inner map of personal development. From here, our energy is often in survival mode: we wait to be chosen, we monitor others for cues, and we outsource our sense of worth to how people respond to us.

From the Victim lookout point, common thoughts and patterns sound like: “I don’t belong unless someone invites me in,” “My feelings control me; I can’t help how I react,” or “Money decides my choices; I have no say.” These beliefs make it hard to see that we do have options and that even a tiny new choice can start to change our inner landscape.

The good news is that this lookout point is not a life sentence; it is a temporary position on the map. When we begin to spiral upward into agency, we might experiment with new coherent stances such as: “I belong here, and I participate with courage and respect,” “I can feel fully and choose my response,” and “I build momentum through clear priorities and consistent action.” Every time we embody one of these more coherent statements, we take a step toward greater freedom and unconditional self-regard

Reflective questions for your Victim lookout point:

Where in your life do you feel you’re waiting for permission or rescue?
In one relationship or situation, what would shift if you believed, “My worth is inherent; I engage from self-respect, not approval-seeking”?
What is one small, doable choice today that would move you from “life happens to me” to “I have a say here”?

Note: In my upcoming Personal Holographic Discoveries (PHD) group session on April 27, we’ll use the Life Repatterning map and a full Victim Territory protocol to help you identify where you’re standing and how to spiral upward into more agency and unconditional love. If you’re curious about this lookout point and recognize yourself in these patterns, this session is designed to give you a practical, compassionate next step. Save the date!

With love and light
Carolyn

#1 - Where are you on your inner map?

Agatha Christie — Tue, 24 Mar 2026 16:15:40 GMT

There are times on the personal growth path when we feel “in between.” We’ve done a lot of inner work, we’re not who we used to be, and yet something still feels just slightly out of reach. We sense a next level of being our true self, but we can’t quite see where that shift is meant to happen.

Clients at this point often ask me, “How many more sessions will I need?” Implying that there may be an end insight. I understand the frustration.

This is where my new Lookout Point Repatterning comes in.

What is a Lookout Point?

In the Life Repatterning system, your inner world can be mapped as if you were standing at a lookout point on a landscape. Each lookout point reflects a combination of:

How awake and aware you are of your own patterns and inner world
How much you are able to love and forgive unconditionally—yourself and others

On this map, there are four key lookout points:

Victim – Life feels like it’s happening to you; your choices and voice may feel limited.
Manipulator – Control feels safer than trust; you manage people and outcomes to feel secure.
Deluded Heart – You lead with love but can overgive, overlook reality, and struggle with boundaries.
Master of the Present Moment – You bring clarity, presence, and unconditional love to your life, with wise limits and conscious choice.

Where you find yourself is not a judgment; it’s a location. Just like a traveller on a map, knowing where you are makes it much easier to see where your next step of growth could be. The location can also be situational – different for your career, relationship or other area of life circumstances.

Why This Matters For Your Next Level of Growth

Each lookout point has its own “default settings”—ways of seeing, feeling, and responding that feel normal from the inside. When you can name your current position, you begin to see:

Which patterns belong to that territory (not to your essence)
What is likely ready to evolve next
Which new choices would most effectively move you toward greater freedom and authenticity

The Master of the Present Moment position is not about perfection. It is a way of being where you:

Stay present with your feelings without being overwhelmed
Hold clear, loving boundaries without closing your heart
Bring compassion and discernment together in real-life situations
Experience more choice in how you respond, rather than reacting from old patterning

By contrast, the other three positions—Victim, Manipulator, and Deluded Heart—tend to narrow our choices. We might feel stuck, over-responsible, or worn out from trying to keep everyone else happy. The moment we recognize, “Oh, I’m viewing this from my Victim (or Manipulator, or Deluded Heart) lookout point,” a new perspective opens and fresh options appear.

How the Lookout Point Repatterning Helps

The Lookout Point Repatterning is a guided process that:

Helps you identify your current lookout point in a specific area of life (relationships, work, health, creativity, or spiritual path)
Brings awareness to the beliefs and behaviours that belong to that territory
Gently repatterns you toward more coherent, life-giving stances—spiralling you closer to the Master of the Present Moment position

Knowing where you are on the path of becoming your true self doesn’t put you in a box; it opens up the map. It gives you a compassionate, precise way to see what is possible next and how to move toward it.

What’s Coming Next

In the next 4 Reflections blog posts, I’ll be sharing a short article on each of the four lookout points:

Week 1 – Victim Lookout Point
Week 2 – Manipulator Lookout Point
Week 3 – Deluded Heart Lookout Point
Week 4 – Master of the Present Moment Lookout Point

Each article will help you recognize the territory you most identify with right now, and how you might begin gently spiralling upward.

To experience this repatterning for yourself either book a one:one consultation session or as a premium member search the archives for the previously recorded PHD group session on this topic. . You’ll be guided to explore your own inner map and discover where your next point of growth is calling you.

With love and light

Spring’s Wood Element Begins Today: An Invitation to What Wants to Grow

Carolyn Winter — Fri, 20 Mar 2026 19:56:37 GMT

Sacred Cycles: The Season of Wood Element

Today’s equinox tips us into spring—Wood season in the Five Elements—when energy rises, vision clarifies, and beginnings find their footing. In Traditional Chinese Medicine, Wood is the inner green force that turns what you’ve been quietly sensing into movement and direction. You don’t have to push to feel it; often it shows up as a gentle nudge: this way, now.

You might notice it as a fresh idea you want to sketch, a conversation you’re ready to have, or the simple urge to clear a corner of your life so something new can breathe. When Wood energy is flowing, hope feels reasonable, decisions feel timely, and planning feels like kindness to your future self. When it’s congested, it can show up as tension, irritation, or the sense of stalling at a green light—so much desire, not quite enough momentum.

For well‑being, consider small, season‑aligned gestures:

Name one next step that would make a difference and is small enough to do this week. Then do it.
Trade rigid plans for flexible outlines. Let timing be something you feel, not force.
Soften your system: longer exhales, unclenched jaw, a walk among anything green. Notice how clarity returns when your body loosens.
Plant something—an herb on the sill, a paragraph on the page, a phone call that opens a door.

Let the act itself be your vote for growth.

As the light lengthens, consider this: what wants to take root in you if you give it your steady yes this week?

With love and light
Carolyn

Repatterning Maps of Discovery: Ancestral Echoes

Carolyn Winter — Fri, 06 Mar 2026 21:33:16 GMT

There are days when something quiet and old moves through us—a familiar tug at the edge of a conversation, a tightening before we set a boundary, a sudden heaviness in the chest we can’t quite name. We ask, Why this again? Often, this is an Ancestral Echo: an unresolved resonance in the family field, repeating until it is seen, honored, and gently set down.

Ancestral Echoes Repatterning draws on family constellation work to help the Orders of Love—belonging, right place, and balance—come back into coherence. We don’t analyze so much as listen: to the body, the breath, the simple truth of who belongs and where love stopped flowing. When someone was forgotten, when a child carried a parent’s burden, when giving and receiving tilted, we feel it as power struggles, control, tangled roles, or loyalties that pull us away from ourselves. This is not a flaw in you. It is love seeking completion across time.

In session, we create a living map of your family system and look with respect at what has been carried. We include who was left out. We return what is not yours to hold. We let elders be big, so you can take your rightful place. The shift is often subtle and unmistakable—more breath, a lighter mood, boundaries that become kind and steady, relationships that find their natural distance and closeness.

A brief practice you can try now:

Sit comfortably and imagine your parents behind you, their parents behind them. Let yourself feel the line of life at your back.
Inwardly, say: I see you. Thank you for my life. What was yours I leave with you; what is mine I now carry.
Breathe and notice what softens.

Where might this echo move in you?

Do you carry a heaviness that doesn’t feel entirely your own?
Do you stand above a parent to protect or correct, or shrink with equals?
Is it hard to say no kindly—or to receive without paying back?
Do you find yourself caught between loyalties, unsure where you belong?

When order is restored, authority grows quiet and trustworthy, conflict subsides, and love can flow again—behind you and through you—toward your life. This is what Ancestral Echoes Repatterning makes possible: a return to your right place, so the energy you spend holding what isn’t yours can be released into living what is.

What ancestral echoes are you hearing?

With light and love

Carolyn

Winter's Wisdom * Resetting Resolutions: Your Life Vision Intention for 2026

Carolyn Winter — Mon, 26 Jan 2026 18:51:42 GMT

New Year’s resolutions already feeling a little wobbly? Data indicates that approximately 80% of resolutions are abandoned by the second week of February. January can pile on pressure to change everything at once.

Instead, I invite you to zoom out and reconnect with the bigger picture: your Life Vision Intention—the clear, heart-led direction that helps every small choice make sense. Think of it as your North Star. Goals are the steps; your vision intention is the compass.

Why bother with a Life Vision Intention? Because clarity is kind. It steadies your decisions, reduces second-guessing, and gently aligns your energy with what matters most. When you resonate with that vision, you naturally notice opportunities, people, and support that match it. It’s not about forcing; it’s about orienting.

Winter is the perfect season to do this. In the energetics of the Five Elements, winter is Water—reflection, calm, and wisdom. This is the time to listen inward, conserve energy, and let deeper knowing rise to the surface. A simple practice: place a hand on your lower back and another on your heart, breathe slowly, and ask, “What would feel deeply true for me this year?” Let the answer be simple. Let it be kind.

And remember: your Life Vision Intention is a work in progress. Life changes, you change, and your statement can evolve with you. Updating your vision isn’t failure—it’s responsiveness. You’re attending to a living conversation with your wiser self.

From my own experience: when I look over my life vision intentions from a few years back, I’m often awe‑struck—first, at how I completely forgot about them, and then at how much manifested, not at all in the way I imagined. For example, five years ago I was on a quest to explain my services clearly for a new website. Four years later, I had created a book that does exactly that (I hope to publish it this year)—something I could never have imagined for myself. The undercurrents of a good vision always lead to delightful unexpected surprises!

If you’d like gentle structure, I’ve adapted a short handout from my full Life Vision Intention Repatterning inquiry: Setting Your Life Vision Intention for 2026. It walks you through a few reflective questions and helps you shape a concise, energizing statement you can revisit and refine over time. AND bring to the next PHD group session. You can download it here: [Setting Your Life Vision Intention for 2026 PDF].

And if you want support bringing your vision to life, my Life Repatterning private sessions and our monthly PHD group sessions are designed to help you clear the hidden patterns that dilute momentum and to energize what you truly want. We’ll move gently, practically, and in alignment with your season—so your actions feel coherent, not exhausting.

Here’s a small starting ritual for this week: write one or two sentences that capture your 2026 Life Vision Intention. Read it aloud each morning in this winter’s quiet, breathe into your lower back, and ask, “What is one small step today that aligns with this?” That’s enough. Let winter do its quiet work.

What truth does your wiser, winter-self want to steer you toward right now?

Creating Coherence at Work: Resonance in the Midst of Chaos

Carolyn Winter — Sun, 07 Dec 2025 20:21:22 GMT

Toxic bosses. Unclear priorities. Whiplash changes. When workplaces feel non‑coherent—unpredictable, unsafe, and disrespectful—most of us do what we’ve been trained to do: push harder, blame louder, or numb out. Yet there’s another option. Through resonance, we can create coherence around us, even when the environment isn’t offering it to us.

Resonance is the felt alignment between our inner state and our actions. It’s the quiet click when what we value, perceive, and do are in tune. In Life Repatterning, resonance isn’t magic thinking—it’s a practical way to influence complex systems. Small, wise shifts inside you ripple outward, shaping meetings, decisions, and relationships in surprising ways.

Complexity theory gives us language for this. Workplaces are living systems: many parts interacting, feedback loops everywhere. You can’t control a complex system, but you can influence it. Like a butterfly’s wings nudging weather patterns, micro‑shifts in awareness and behavior can seed coherence—clearer norms, steadier rhythms, more humane choices.

When non‑coherence shows up, most of us slip into one of four stances:

Deluded Heart:we excuse or rationalize harmful behavior to keep the peace.
Victim:we feel powerless and outsource agency—“look what they’re doing to us.”
Manipulator: we lean on guilt, obligation, or back‑channeling to feel safe.
Mastery:we act with clarity and care, shaping the reality we want to inhabit.

Mastery is not dominance. It’s resonance.It’s the capacity to hold awareness and love or unity at the same time—clear boundaries, compassionate tone. From here, you don’t need perfect conditions to lead; you create conditions worth following.

How do we move toward mastery in the middle of a messy week?

Sense the field, not just the facts. Pause before you respond. Ask your Wise Self: “What’s actually happening in me, between us, and around us?” In Life Repatterning, we use a simple Toggle Check—feel for the path that has the most energy and integrity right now. The goal isn’t certainty; it’s coherence.
Choose one resonant micro‑shift. Complex systems respond to small, well‑placed moves. For example,name the pattern rather than the person: “We’re rewarding urgency over clarity; can we slow the decision by one hour?”Set a boundary with care: “I’m available until 5; after that I’ll respond tomorrow.” Orreplace ambiguity with rhythm:“Let’s start with 10 minutes of priorities, then decisions, then owners.”
Lead with presence, not pressure. Your state is contagious. When you’re regulated, others can co‑regulate. Breathe, soften your jaw, unclench the hands. Speak slower than the room. Ask two questions before giving one directive.
Build micro‑rituals of coherence. Tiny rituals compound: a weekly 15‑minute “sense‑check,” a shared definition of “urgent,” a standing agreement to capture decisions in two lines. These are resonance anchors—small agreements that reduce noise and increase trust.
Keep the compassion boundary. Coherence does not mean capitulation. You can love people and refuse harmful dynamics. “I care about this team, and I won’t participate in public shaming. Let’s step aside and address the issue directly.”

As resonance grows, you’ll notice shifts that look like luck but are really alignment: meetings that end sooner because the purpose is clear, tense conversations softened by naming what’s true, teams choosing steadiness over spectacle. Insights arise that you couldn’t have forced and wouldn’t have predicted. What felt like breakdown reveals itself as reorganization.

The gift of this approach is freedom: you become present to what is, open to what could be, and courageous enough to act. You don’t need the org chart to change to start leading differently. Coherence is a practice, not a permission slip.

If your workplace feels chaotic this week, choose one moment to practice resonance. Sense the field, make one micro‑shift, and watch for ripples.

What single shift would bring the most integrity and ease into your next meeting?

Ready to move from reaction to resonance? Don’t stay stuck in victim, delusion, or manipulation. Choose mastery and create coherence you can feel. I can help—explore Business Support:https://lighttravels.com/BusinessSupport.

with care and coherence

Carolyn Winter, Founder of Life Repatterning

Small intentions big joy...

Carolyn Winter — Mon, 01 Dec 2025 20:12:53 GMT

List in hand, I ducked into one of my favorite box stores—Canadian Tire—intent on finding aisle 25 and a pack of lightbulbs. Two steps past the carts, though, I was whisked onto “Christmas Street”: Autumn's plants and patio transformed into twinkling magic, a cheerful mechanical Santa waving hello. I kept walking—until the next display stopped me cold. A whole holiday village, tiny trains circling to soft music, parents and kids standing shoulder to shoulder, just…pausing. No purchases. Just wonder. I lingered, breathed, and let it fill me before heading back to my list.

The Mindful Holiday Season

From work windups to tables full of friends, from game days to late-night scrolling, from mall blitzes to family plans landing all at once… ’tis the season of too much to do and not quite enough elves.

Energetically, we’re moving from autumn’s Metal element—abundance, appreciation, recognition, value—toward December’s Water Element: reflection, calm, inner wisdom. The solstice on December 21 invites a quieter current. You don’t have to stop; you can simply soften. ( See 5 Seasons Repatterning Metal / Water)

I like to think of this as the season of the heart—acceptance, love, kindness, and compassion taking the lead.

There’s a generous hum in the air right now. If we tune to it, it tunes us back.

Try this:

Taste: Notice how pumpkin spice quietly gives way to gingerbread and holiday spice. Savor the way a home-baked cookie somehow tastes like a memory. Let “a little more special” be enough.
Listen: Hear the ebb and flow of crowds and traffic. Beneath the bustle are shared feelings of the season, humming worry. What do you tune into? Hold a small candle in your heart for strangers—your steady presence helps more than you know.
Wish: Bless complete strangers as you pass—better weather, smoother traffic, the right timing. Notice the single parents doing the math and magic. Send them a quiet miracle from your heart to theirs.
Marvel: Admire the snow’s soft choreography. Appreciate the neighbor shoveling, the crews clearing, the staff keeping lights on through long holiday hours.
Slow: What you notice is what you resonate with—and what you resonate with is what you broadcast. Choose your station. Let it be gentle.

Set one clear intention for your holiday season. Write it on paper or a phone sticky note you’ll actually see. Your noticing will create a simple magic more than you expect.

If this season brings stress or sorrow—if relationships feel tender or thin—please don’t carry it alone. Holidays can brush old bruises, so reach for a hand: coffee with a friend, book with a counsellor or therapist, or a Life Repatterning session with me to gently shift your frequency - just the act of scheduling tells your system, “Help is on the way,” and pressure often eases the moment you do. Tell the truth about what hurts and what you’re hoping for; journaling may also help.

I’m here to support—just reach out.

In the meantime, let the little things find you. Pause. Taste. Listen. Marvel. Wish. The season will meet you there.

With love and light

Carolyn

Life Repatterning Coach

When the Past Runs Your Meetings: Clearing Patterns for Clear Decisions

Carolyn Winter — Wed, 19 Nov 2025 20:27:54 GMT

We often treat workplace conflict as a skill gap—needing better communication, stronger feedback, clearer goals. Useful, yes. But beneath stubborn patterns on teams—power struggles, role confusion, reactive decision-making—there’s often an echo from elsewhere: the relational templates we grew up with.

In one of my recent online sessions, we explored “Ancestral Echoes – Clearing Family Patterns,” a PHD (Personal Holographic Discoveries) group session that draws on constellation work to reveal and unwind the invisible loyalties that shape how we relate. While this work focuses on family systems, its impact shows up powerfully in the workplace. Here’s how.

First, role clarity. In families, love moves best when giving and taking are balanced and the order of time and responsibility is respected. At work, that translates to leaders leading and teams contributing as equals—without caretaking up the chain or rescuing sideways. When we carry a pattern of standing “above” a parent or choosing sides in old conflicts, it often repeats as over-functioning, micromanaging, or triangulation. Clearing the pattern helps us hold our role without collapsing into old dynamics. The result is steadier delegation, cleaner handoffs, and fewer “mystery” resentments.

Second, boundaries that are kind and reliable. If we learned that belonging required self-sacrifice or invisibility, saying no at work feels risky. Constellation work restores belonging by including what was left out and honoring the real order in the system. From that felt sense of inclusion, boundaries stop being hard or apologetic. They become clear commitments: what I will do, what I won’t, and how I’ll communicate changes. Teams feel it as psychological safety—less performative agreement, more honest alignment.

Third, conflict that softens. Many organizational fights are not about the stated issue; they’re about unresolved identification with someone who suffered earlier. In the field, these show up as disproportionate reactions to authority, chronic resistance to process, or recurring “us vs. them” splits between departments. When we see and release the entanglement, the heat drops. Arguments become shorter, decisions stick, and feedback lands without triggering the past.

Fourth, change that actually moves. Initiatives often stall because the system is carrying exclusions—voices or histories not acknowledged. Hellinger’s Orders of Love remind us: everyone who belongs has a right to belong. In business terms, when we respect origins, recognize contributions, and include what was sidelined, energy returns. Strategy finds traction not because we push harder, but because the field is coherent.

What makes this practical is that constellation work doesn’t analyze; it shows. Once you see the shape of a pattern, your body knows what to try differently: a leader sits back a bit and lets a team member step forward; a teammate stops rescuing and starts reflecting; a department acknowledges the origin story of a process before revising it. The shifts are often quiet and cumulative—less drama, more momentum.

In our PHD session, we create or update a vision intention that includes a meaningful family aspect, identify current issues arising from unresolved patterns, and set clear intentions aligned with belonging, order, and balanced exchange. You leave with a felt sense of support—both from your lineage and from a clearer inner stance—plus practical ways to show up differently at work right away.

If your team is cycling the same conflicts, if boundaries wobble, if decision-making feels oddly charged, this work can help. Expect fewer firefights, more clarity, and a kinder kind of accountability.

What repeating workplace pattern feels like an “echo” to you—and what might change if the original story finally found its rightful place?

With love and light

Carolyn Winter

Life Repatterning Coach

The Energetics of Decluttering: Why We Resist, and What Changes When We Resonate

Carolyn Winter — Fri, 08 Aug 2025 21:08:35 GMT

If clutter is just stuff, why does it feel so charged? Because every object carries a little current—memory, meaning, potential—and our spaces are conductors. When that current is coherent, the room hums. When it’s tangled, our nervous system picks up the static. Decluttering isn’t only a chore list; it’s an energetic practice of tuning the field we live inside.

So why don’t we resonate with it? First, clutter often buffers discomfort. Stacks and “just in case” items can keep us from feeling emptiness, grief, or decisions we’d rather postpone. Second, our culture rewards accumulation and conflates abundance with quantity, so letting go can feel like losing safety or status. Third, our bodies remember. Past scarcity, family rules about gifts and heirlooms, or the fear of making a “wrong” choice create a low hum of anxiety that makes even a single drawer feel like a mountain.

Resonance begins when we match the work to our natural rhythm instead of trying to conquer it. Think breath, not battle. Choose one micro-territory—a shelf, a surface, a single bag—and let it be a tuning fork. Name its purpose, hold each item long enough to feel its signal, and decide: does this object amplify my purpose, or scatter it? If it scatters, release it with a clear goodbye. If it amplifies, give it a true home so its signal stays strong.

As you practice, notice the subtle shifts. Air feels lighter. You move with fewer hesitations. Decisions elsewhere in life come quicker because the neural pathways for discernment are firing. Sleep deepens as your environment stops asking your attention to solve it. Relationships soften when you’re less overstimulated and more present. Opportunities land because there’s room for them to land.

Decluttering becomes magnetic when it aligns with values rather than aesthetics. “I create spaces that support my clarity and service” has more pull than “I should be tidy.” Rhythm matters, too. Short, honest sessions—ten minutes with a timer, one category per day, a weekly reset ritual—entrain steadiness far better than occasional marathons that spike stress and rebound into clutter. Invite your senses to help: fresh air through a window, a grounding tone, a drop of lemon for clarity. Let your body feel the difference you’re making.

Most importantly, honor the cycle. Nature doesn’t apologize for shedding. You’re not failing when items accumulate; you’re simply at the next exhale. When you treat releasing as a return to flow rather than a referendum on your worth, resistance loosens. What remains is a quiet, palpable coherence: objects that earn their place, pathways that welcome you, and an inner voice you can finally hear.

What small territory could you tune today so the rest of your life can hear the note and join in?

With love and light
Carolyn

Summer's Fire: A Season for Relationship Transformation

Carolyn Winter — Thu, 17 Jul 2025 00:37:14 GMT

As the sun reaches its zenith and summer unfolds in all its glory, nature offers us profound wisdom about relationships. In Traditional Chinese Medicine, summer belongs to the Fire Element – the very energy that governs our heart, joy, and capacity for authentic connection.

Think of how summer naturally draws us together. We gather for barbecues, meet friends at the beach, and linger in conversation during long, warm evenings. This isn't just coincidence – it's our natural resonance with Fire Element energy at its peak. Just as a campfire creates a natural circle of warmth and community, summer's energy invites us to examine and enhance our connections.

But what makes a relationship truly empowering? Like a well-tended flame, healthy relationships provide warmth without burning us out. They create space for both personal growth and meaningful bonds. When we're in balance with Fire energy, we naturally attract and sustain relationships that uplift rather than deplete us.

This season offers a perfect opportunity to reflect on our relationship patterns. Are your connections energizing you like a bright summer day, or leaving you feeling burned out? Summer's expansive energy supports us in releasing old patterns that no longer serve us and opening to new possibilities for authentic connection.

Consider using this time to:

Notice which relationships bring warmth and joy to your life
Examine where you might be giving away your power
Explore new ways of connecting that honor both yourself and others
Set intentions for relationships that support your spiritual growth

As the Fire Element peaks, we have extra support for transforming our relationship patterns. Like the summer sun nurturing growth in gardens, this energy can help us cultivate connections that truly empower and sustain us.

What better time than now to tend to the garden of your relationships?

With love and light

Carolyn

Life Repatterning Coach

Recenter and Recharge: Harnessing the Power of the Earth Element This Season

Carolyn Winter — Mon, 16 Jun 2025 19:52:54 GMT

Feeling overwhelmed, scattered, or stuck in worry-loops lately? You're not alone. In our fast-paced world, finding balance can feel impossible. But there's an ancient secret that might just change everything - the Earth Element from Traditional Chinese Medicine.

Here's something fascinating: Chinese Medicine recognizes a hidden "fifth season" - those special transition weeks between seasons. Right now, as spring flows into summer, we're in one of these powerful Earth Element phases. It's like nature's built-in reset button!

What's the Earth Element All About?

Think of the Earth Element as your internal compass and anchor. When it's balanced, you'll feel:
• Grounded and stable
• Mentally clear and focused
• Deeply nourished
• Connected to your purpose
• Able to care for yourself without burnout

But when it's off-balance? That's when you might experience:
• Constant overthinking
• Energy crashes
• Boundary struggles
• Feeling disconnected
• Self-care challenges

Why This Matters Now

This spring-to-summer transition is your perfect opportunity to reset and rebalance. Just like the Earth provides a foundation for all life, your Earth Element creates the foundation for your wellbeing.

Want to know the best part? You can strengthen this element! Through Earth Element Repatterning work, you can transform worry into wisdom and build unshakeable inner stability.

Ready to harness this seasonal power? I'm offering special Earth Element Repatterning sessions designed specifically for this transitional period. Each session includes personalized techniques to help you find your center and maintain it.

Does this resonate with you? Share in the comments how the Earth Element shows up in your life. Do you feel grounded and stable, or are you experiencing some of these imbalances? Let's support each other in finding our center during this transformative time.

Remember: You deserve to feel as stable, supported, and nourished as the Earth itself.

With love and light

Carolyn Winter

Life Repatterning Coach

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How Creative Self-Expression Evolves Through Levels of Consciousness

Carolyn Winter — Mon, 12 May 2025 18:52:00 GMT

Thanks to Pixabay.com artist Jean Pierre Bellec

As a repatterning practitioner who regularly facilitates group sessions exploring consciousness development, I'm fascinated by how our creative expression naturally evolves as we grow through different levels of awareness. In my monthly PhD (Personal Holographic Discoveries) group work, I consistently observe how each stage of consciousness brings its own unique flavor to artistic expression.

At the earliest Magic (Magenta) level, art emerges as pure instinctual expression - think of children's finger paintings or prehistoric cave art. There's an unfiltered quality here, where creativity flows directly from sensation and emotion without self-consciousness. I smile, remembering a favorite art piece I created with the children in one of my first day care jobs. While doing the late Friday afternoon weekly cleanup, I scrolled 8 feet of 36” wide butcher paper along the floor and dumped all of the leftover tempera paints in splotches along the center of the paper. Covering each of 5 children in garbage bag ‘smocks’ I invited them to hand-paint. They really got into the effects of mixing colors and creating movement on paper. It was a masterpiece I treasured for a number of years!

Moving into the Mythic (Amber) stage, we see art becoming more structured and traditional. Religious iconography, folk art traditions, and classical forms dominate. Artists at this level often focus on preserving cultural heritage and expressing eternal truths through established symbols and techniques. I always think of my grandmothers treasured print of the Last Supper hanging in the living room.

The Rational (Orange) level brings technical mastery and innovation. Here we find photorealistic paintings, architectural precision, and art that demonstrates skill and rational understanding. Think Renaissance masters who used mathematical principles in their compositions or modern digital artists pushing technical boundaries. This level reminds me of the puzzling yet delightful drawings of M.C. Escher.

At the Pluralistic (Green) stage, art becomes more experimental and inclusive. Mixed media installations, collaborative community art projects, and works that challenge cultural norms emerge. Artists here often focus on social commentary and giving voice to marginalized perspectives. Here I think of the many statement-type community quilts created to mobilize a community around a cause, such as the Aids Memorial Quilt. I remember how it took my breath away to see it pictured.

The Integral (Teal) level introduces a fascinating synthesis. Artists begin weaving together multiple styles, traditions, and perspectives into coherent new forms. They might combine ancient techniques with modern technology or blend sacred geometry with abstract expressionism. The focus shifts to exploring consciousness itself through art. This level reminds me of Lawren Harris, a Group of Seven Canadian artist who did beautiful landscapes. In his later years, he began painting in abstracts and geometric shapes, completely different from when he first began. When asked about this change, he replied, “I am searching for the summit of my soul… up there where the universe sings.”

At the highest stages (Turquoise and beyond), creative expression becomes increasingly subtle and profound. Art at these levels often touches the ineffable - think of certain minimalist Zen paintings or works that somehow manage to convey both emptiness and fullness simultaneously. LOL – this could very well describe my housekeeping! For this is a level of expression I have yet to understand. Suggest an example of this in the comments below.

What fascinates me most in my group sessions is watching how individuals naturally gravitate toward different forms of creative expression as their consciousness evolves. Someone might start with rigid, technically perfect works, then gradually loosen into more experimental forms as they develop. Others might begin with chaotic emotional expression and slowly discover deeper structure and meaning. It doesn’t matter where you are today, start creating and your expression will evolve with you.

The beauty of understanding these developmental stages is that it helps us honor all forms of creative expression as valid and necessary parts of human evolution. Whether we're looking at a child's first crayon drawing or a master's contemplative installation, each represents a perfect expression of that level of consciousness.

In my work, I've found that simply understanding this evolutionary arc helps creators relax into their current expression while staying open to natural development. There's no need to force "higher" forms - authentic growth happens organically as consciousness expands.

With light and love
Carolyn

Life Repatterning Coach

Imagine Your Potential: New Year Reflection Questions

Carolyn Winter — Wed, 01 Jan 2025 20:39:04 GMT

Happy New Year! I hope you and your family and friends enjoyed a wonderful holiday season.

I love the turning of the calendar and this very first day of the new year especially brings me optimism. Energetically we are in the season of winter (in the northern hemisphere) owned by the element of WATER. The water element asks us to reflect, remain calm, be still... think about things. Our reflections can take us to the depths of our awareness, face new insights about our life with courage, cleanse us of all guilt, and inspire us with clever new actions to take. Think of snowy blizzard-like days, the calm of a lake frozen over, or Niagara Falls covered in ice, and feel the awesome power of Water Elements stillness within.

"It's a great time to reflect!"

LIFE REFLECTION QUESTIONS THAT FEED OUR STAGES OF CONSCIOUS AWARENESS

From my Life Repatterning - "Clearing the Seven Levels of Growth Towards Wholeness" there are questions that focus on each of the levels. While we experience all levels simoutaneously - one is our center of gravity or primary level of awareness. Taking time to reflect on these types of questions helps us to integrate the new things we have learned about life and living and creates a new way of being in the world. Indications that the next stage of awareness has arrived for you include feeling lighter, happier, more free, generous, and abundant.

"Our awareness expands."

THE QUESTIONS...

There are no right or wrong answers here. Focus on the one or two questions you are most drawn to think about or the whole list as you wish! Spend time daydreaming about your answers and then make some key points for yourself.

Magenta Level - Magical Thinking Stage
If you could do anything and get away with it, what would you do?

Red Level - Empowerment Stage
We all have unique gifts and talents that we could consider our superpowers. What is yours and how will you use it to make a difference in 2025?

Amber Level Belonging Stage
What group affiliations do you need to let go of because they no longer serve your purpose?

What new groups will you join this year that would help you learn new things or support your goals? Perhaps you need new friends?

Orange Level Achievement Stage
What achievements have gone unacknowledged that you are most proud of?

Green Level Idealism Stage
What current event in 2024 most broke your heart?

Turquoise Level Stage of Wholeness
If evolution picked your best quality or trait to improve humanity and embedded this trait in the next generation what would that be?

When you resonate with your positive statements you tend to then experience them in your life. Watch what you wish for!

Let me know if you have any questions at carolyn@lighttravels.com.

Wishing you all the very best health, wealth, happiness, and joy with delightful unexpected surprises throughout the year

With Love and Light

Carolyn

www.LightTravels.com

Carolyn@lighttravels.com

Adapted from my post at Repatterning Journal

Understanding #3 Everything has its own unique vibration

Carolyn Winter — Wed, 13 Nov 2024 20:16:30 GMT

Life Repatterning Understandings ...that change everything!

From soup to nuts - politicians, brands, colors, families, our physical body, clothing, communities, processions', thoughts, feelings, values, - anything you can name or imagine has its own frequency expressed in cycles per second (how fast it vibrates).

Frequencies are attracted to each other as in 'like' attracts 'like'. It's like tuning into an old fashion radio station. Either you hear the station clearly or get static.

Similarly with any energy…. You either match a frequency and experience it as “ON” or don’t match it as in … “OFF”.

What you resonate with of course is what you then experience - good or bad.

We tend to not think about what is buzzing around in our orbit and often suffer the consequences of bad energy. The key here is to know that for everything you are experiencing... the only reason it shows up for you is that you have that exact vibration in your field of energy. So you have A MATCH!

DIY - Try it out for yourself with the exercise #3 on the Free- Resources page. (Login or Join as a Regular or Premium Members)

With light and love

Carolyn

Understanding #2 - Time is Non-linear

Carolyn Winter — Wed, 13 Nov 2024 20:08:33 GMT

Life Repatterning Understandings ...that change everything!

Time is a fickle thing. In new physics, past, present and future coexist simultaneously. Einstein is quoted as saying “The only reason for time is so that everything doesn't happen at once.” “Time and space are modes by which we think and not conditions in which we live.” “The distinction between the past, present and future is only a stubbornly persistent illusion.

While our resonant field is good at remembering our past, if we listen… our future self is energetically also whispering to us!

In medical journalist Lynn McTaggart's book The Intention Experiment, she describes the science research project that had people praying for patients of a hospice care type hospital of 600 patients. The control group received no prayers. The final result of the project was that the control group had the expected number of doctor/hospital visits and life expectation. The prayed for group had remarkably fewer hospital visits and lived a little longer than expected. BUT the real kicker was this...

All the patients randomly assigned to the experiment were merely their records from a number of years previous to the experiment. In other words, they had all died well before the experiment was conducted. For scientists this proved the non linear nature of time.

If you have ever joined one of my group sessions you know I often invite your active participation even when the event itself is over because "The Hologram is still anticipating you!"

DIY - Try it out for yourself with the exercise # 2 on the Free- Resources page. (Login or Join as a free or premium member to access)

With light and love

Carolyn

UNDERSTANDING #1: Our World is Holographic- its just an illusion

Carolyn Winter — Wed, 13 Nov 2024 19:57:45 GMT

Life is holographic - meaning like a hologram the life we experience is just an illusion, our outward reality is much the same. A lot depends on our angle of light, or enlightenment or simply perception. Like a holographic sticker, you can find more than one image by tilting the image for a different degree of light.

For example... what is your experience of ‘apples’ – are they delicious? Sweet? Tart? OR Wormy?

Perhaps for you apples conjure up memories of school snacks, rewards or playground squabbles? Or do you just see an apple?

The image you ‘see’ depends on the quality of your inner ‘light’ and the perception you are shining.

In my case, I use to always spy those delicious purple plums at the farmer's market at the end of summer and then hesitate to buy them because I do associate them with being wormy. We moved to the city when I was 12 and our new home had a wonderful garden of 6 different fruit trees. The purple plums, after a year or two developed a worm situation invading every 3-4 plums. My father was frustrated having tried many spraying options without success. Nevertheless he did not want the harvest wasted. He’d say "just take out the worms, they are fine to eat." Ugh! It wasn’t until many repatterning in my 40’s that I tilted my angle of light and learned to trust that plums could be worm free.

How we experience life depends on what is projecting our light source…

In the Life Repatterning sessions we drill down to those holographic images that need to clear or be replaced with better images. When you master the understanding of how life is holographic - you can change anything!

DIY - Try it out for yourself with the exercise #1 on the Free- Resources page. (Login or Join a Regular or Premium Member)

With light and love

Carolyn

Why does Life Repatterning work?

Carolyn Winter — Wed, 13 Nov 2024 19:00:00 GMT

Life Repatterning Understandings ...that change everything!

Why does Life Repatterning work? It can sometimes be a rather mystical experience. You have a session, patterns that seem totally unrelated to your presenting problem are identified and cleared, the session ends and you think "What did that do?"

Then for no reason that you can logically connect back to a session - everything changes.

Your problem essentially goes away, but not in a way you would expect, or an opportunity shows up from out of the blue, or unexplainably you feel calm, content and happy. Often the relationships involved will improve - the other party apologizes or offers a solution. If you have had a session with me you know what I am talking about. If not...I will try to explain.

In my next series of newsletters we'll review some of the essential understandings from 'new physics' that are integrated in my Life Repatterning system. Along the way I will provide tips for how you can incorporate these into easy DIY (do it yourself) repatternings. Click the links below to reach the blog post and action you can take.

Understanding #1 - Life is Holographic

Understanding #2 - Time is Non Linear

Understanding #3 - Everything has its own unique vibration

Understanding #4 -

The Energy Season of Water Element Quality #4 - Clear Thought

Carolyn Winter — Fri, 20 Jan 2023 22:03:12 GMT

Create a better life story when you resonate with the best of nature and your inner connection

The water element quality of 'Clear Thought' was one quality I had previously taken for granted and paid this aspect little attention. However it's importance was highlighted for me as I recovered from my recent knee surgery. I had planned to fill my recovery days with reading and writing more aspects to my Integral Life Repatterning. I was really looking forward to that. So it was disheartening to greet each day with the feeling of brain fog. I was unable to focus, or get to the bottom of an issue and tired easily. Not coincidently, the pinnacle of my healing issues came as the winter solstice arrived (the season of water element and this quality).

After a few self-sessions and recognizing that this non-coherence is also related to the season I found a strategy to help reclaim my brain. I switched from goals for reading and writing to sewing Christmas presents and finishing craft projects. Most of you know this is a source of joy for me anyway, but at this time it also sparked a new sense of motivation. The various projects and activity forced me to take things slowly and step by step, read the instructions and execute them. Completion of a project provided that endorphin rush that screams "YES! Lets do this again tomorrow!" I completed a number a projects with this strategy and now find myself completely out of that brain fog state. Priorities have come into clear focus for me and I find myself thinking about things in deep reflective way - again the nature of this water element quality of CLEAR THOUGHT.

What qualities of Clear Thought do you resonate with? (and broadcast to others?).

What is your felt sense of the items below. (or muscle check if you are a recent student of my course)

Non Coherent Qualities involved:

I am easily confused.
I can't read or follow instructions.
I am unable to get clear about the real issue/need.

Coherent Qualities involved:

I think with clarity, depth and refection.
I easily read and follow instructions.
I ask for clarity when i am confused.

With love and light

Carolyn Winter

Holographic Coach

I have options to help you Improve your life story now!...

The Energy Season of Water Element Quality #3 - Reserves

Carolyn Winter — Fri, 13 Jan 2023 20:44:53 GMT

Create a better life story when you resonate with the best of nature and your inner connection

In an age of credit card madness we can easily find ourselves over-extended with few reserves. Energetically we can do much the same with our health and vitality if we constantly over work and not take time to rest and recharge appropriately. Has that happened to you?

I know post surgery, I recently encountered the dilemna of wanting to do so many things. My head was filled with ideas and plans - holiday celebrations, visits with friends, craft projects, baking, my blog, an inspirational newsletter or two... yet low energy reserves held me back. I had to reluctantly conclude that I could not do it all and prioritize what was possible. Energectically that was me paying attention to my energy and managing my water element. While my recovery took longer than expected I now see the value of taking the time to replenish those energy reserves. I feel much better and excited about the year to come and look forward to getting back to my work with all of you!

Wether it is money or our health and vitality, low reserves weakens our Water Element energy and worsens our health.

When we consciously maintain our reserves, our water element supports us with a confidence, security and the vitality to work on our dreams, goals and plans.

What qualities of Reserves do you resonate with? (and broadcast to others?).

What is your felt sense of the items below. (or muscle check if you are a recent student of my course)

Non Coherent Qualities involved:

I am unable to maintain a consistent level of money or energy
I use up my reserves and feel exhausted or get sick
I don't stop and take the time to recharge.
My credit cards are constantly maxed out.

Coherent Qualities involved:

I replenish myself
I maintain good reserves of _________(energy, strength, health, power money )
I always have a reserve to draw on as needed
I naturally take the time I need to recharge on a daily basis.
I pay my credit cards and other bills on time each month.

With love and light

Carolyn Winter

Holographic Coach

I have options to help you Improve your life story now!...

The Energy Season of Water Element Quality # 2 Courage

Carolyn Winter — Fri, 06 Jan 2023 22:53:46 GMT

Create a better life story when you resonate with the best of nature and your inner connection

IThe Season of Water Element supports the quality of having courage a quality that often takes us out of ourselves, transcends our fear and puts us into taking right action no matter how scary. Its not uncalculated. We don't act wrecklessly but we also don't hang back or procrastinate for saying or doing what is called for in any situation.

I remember an entire year of having to summon up this quality of courage in one of my first career jobs running a small daycare center. There were many care issues to discuss with parents - who were much older and experienced at child care than me!

The center participants were of every nationality and come the Christmas holiday season, the parent committee decided to host a pot luck with each family bringing a favorite dish of the their culture. Mexican, Spanish, Jamaican, Italian dishes soon filled the potluck board.

However, one family of 3 children held back. Their parents were Asian and spoke little English. Their authoritarion father in a curt and strict voice informed me they would not be attending. The children were very disappointed and I hardly knew what to say to them. Their Dad was difficult to approach. However, a few days before the event I summoned all the courage I had and quietly asked him if we could talk. I asked him to reconsider and explained how much it would mean to the children. My heart was in my stomach for sure... anticipating an angry response. To my astonishment he replied with a softened answer. "I will discuss it with my wife and let you know"

The next day he returned with an explanation and an answer. Their food he explained is spicy and strange to most people in north america. They won't like it and our children will be embarressed. BUT if you would come to our home for dinner before the event we will prepare several dishes - perhaps you could help us choose. I happily obliged and so glad I did. Their dish of mildly curried vegetables was very well accepted, the children were beaming with pride and after that...these parents became friendly and engaging with the other parents.

I often reflect on that moment of courage where I asked a second time and how the outcome may have changed things in a positive way for the entire family.

What qualities of Reflection do you resonate with? (and broadcast to others?).

What is your felt sense of the items below. (or muscle check if you are a recent student of my course)

Non Coherent Qualities involved:

My fear stops me from going forward.
I am afraid.

Coherent Qualities involved:

I have the courage to face_____
(name a person or situation relevant to you)
I am fearless.
I face my fears and move into action.

I have options to help you Improve your life story now!...

With love and light

Carolyn Winter

Holographic Coach

The Energy Season of Water Element Quality #1 - Reflection

Carolyn Winter — Tue, 13 Dec 2022 16:41:25 GMT

Create a better life story when you resonate with the best of nature and your inner connection

The art of inner reflection (in my opinion) is one of the most powerful ways to accelerate our adult growth of awareness and spiritual development - if we allow time for it or make it a habit. A down side of the abundant information age is that we tend to live life with our finger on the fast forward button, cramming in as much as we can each minute of the day. We go from one thing to the next in our day without taking a pause and reflecting on what happened.

Inner reflection helps us to tap into the Brow Chakra quality of witnessing our life, making compassionate judgements of our actions, evalutate what went well and to notice the small miracles and synchronicities that happen for us each day. It is the noticing and appreciating or letting go that helps us clear our energy field of our regret and confirm our positive changes. Our wise self book marks these observations and calls on it for wisdom to whisper to you the next time you need it. Incrementally over time our reflections help us to grow our conscious awareness and live our potential. We tend to then be happier people with more option to access in how we move forward in our lives.

What qualities of Reflection do you resonate with? (and broadcast to others?).

What is your felt sense of the items below. (or muscle check if you are a recent student of my course)

Non Coherent Qualities involved:

I don't feel heard.
I don't listen to others.
I am unable to think deeply about what is really being said/done.
I am unable to respond to life and circumstances.
My options feel limited.

Coherent Qualities involved:

I get it!
I respond appropriately to circumstances.
I listen deeply and reflect on what I have heard.
I take a pause to reflect on my day so far and acknowlege myself.
I feel heard.
I reflect on the deeper meanings I perceive from my experiences.

I have options to help you Improve your life story now!...

With love and light

Carolyn Winter

Holographic Coach

Reflection and the The Long Term Nature of Intention

Carolyn Winter — Tue, 13 Dec 2022 16:18:00 GMT

Create a better life story when you resonate with
the best of nature and your inner connection

Reprinted from December 30th 2015

Last December, after the festive season of 2014 I made an intention and repatterned it for the holiday season of 2015. I wanted the season to be merry and bright and not so rushed that I would be too exhausted (and then susceptible to colds) to enjoy it. I intended that things fall into place effortlessly. I had quite forgotten about this delightful repatterning until some quiet time taken during this holiday season. WOW… the repatterning really worked 12 months after the fact. Here are some of the things i have noticed I am sure can be attributed to the repatterning:

I did not actually get decorations up around my home and while i felt a little disappointed about that since it is one of my favorite things to do, at this time of year, the extra time allowed me to sleep in when needed, or accomplish other things.
our extended family gathering on the 24th means all must be done (food cooked or prepped, presents wrapped, sleigh loaded) by the early morning at the latest if i am to arrive in the zone of ‘on time’. Normally there is no time to do all of that AND leave my apartment in some resemblance of order. This year the sleigh was ready the night before and I had time to tidy up!
the crush between preparing and then leaving usually means I do laundry at the other end as well as wrap presents. This year I wrapped things up by 2:00pm on December 23rd presents and all. Then I spent the rest of the afternoon at a salon getting my nails done. I managed to weird out the beautician by zonking out with meditation!
instead of meeting an unrealistic goal of handmade gifts for all, I comfortably engaged in online shopping instead. I actually enjoyed the experience and it was a huge time saver.
Somethings required a trip to the mall, which I normally do not enjoy at any time of the year. However, this year it was like the waters were parting for my arrival. I found what i needed in record time, no line ups or crowds, and surprising prices.

This experience has left me with the reminder about the value of integrating a session. When we take time to reflect we anchor our new neural pathway, that new direction our brain is firing and make it our new ‘normal’. On New Year’s Eve I plan to build on this new base and make intentions for next year. I can hardly wait to see what manifests next!

I wonder if I intended hand made gifts now…..

With love and light

Carolyn

Holographic Coach

How Clear Intellect vs Fake News Shapes Our Life Story

Carolyn Winter — Wed, 02 Nov 2022 17:13:51 GMT

The Energy Season of Metal Element
- Quality #1 Clear Intellect

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Do you have this on your computer? With my latest installment of Microsoft Office suite came a daily pop up window with links to news, weather sports and life articles etc. I initially found it interesting, but eventually started to tune out the 'BuzzFeed' links and other things that are mere propaganda. But recently, one article caught my eye and I found it so wrong I finally deleted - the whole app.

The article had pictured Canadian Prime Minister Justin Trudeau in a smiling relaxed pose on a local TV talk show. The caption read "Trudeau does this everyday to make money and shows audience how they too can use this technique." The banner had recognizable logos... "As seen on Forbes, Global TV, Globe and Mail, etc." it looked like proof that the article was real even though intellectually I knew Trudeau would never have that kind of pep talk for the audience.

It took me a few minutes to finally discern that the article was pure fake news. I immediately informed the vendors on how their logos were being misrepresented. In a few hours the article was removed.

Energetically this is an example of the metal element quality of Clear Intellect - the faculty of reasoning and objective understanding. This is a profound quality to resonate with and we have to do what we can to protect this quality in us. It is a quality we use everyday but none as important for example as being a good citizen, researching candidates and our duty to be an informed voter and vote.

The current election cycle gives us the opportunity to use our clear intellect to make the best decisions for ourselves and what we feel is best for our country. Unfortunately there are strategists out there that try to get us to doubt ourselves and the facts. Advertisements and social media messages are generated to get us to ignore facts, believe out-right lies and vote a certain way out of fear. Informed reasoning is thrown out the window!

We are then vulnerable to the bombardment of current of political messages that villainize people, and tugs at our basic instinct to look for things to be afraid of.. when none exist. Our quality of clear intellect dissolves. Our energy spirals down. And we can feel anxious, afraid and unhappy.

When we resonate with having and using our natural quality of clear intellect, we easily probe to find what is true or not true, what is fact or fiction. This quality shows up in our thinking that will confidently question everything. In my own example I was curious enough to question the article and its source and to contact the logo owners. By the end of the day I confidently deleted that pop up news feature from my computer and sent feedback to Microsoft. It felt uplifting!

Our questioning can lead to judgments but a resonance with clear intellect will make that judgment compassionate and understanding. We'll also get a sense of whether we can trust the information or not.

What qualities of Clear Intellect do you resonate with? (and broadcast to others?). What is your felt sense of the items below. (or muscle check if you are a recent student of my course)

Non Coherent Qualities involved:

I am overly intellectual
I am drawn into news stories that have no proof
I refuse to see the facts of a situation that don't support my point of view.
i use my knowledge and intellect in a cold and judgmental way

Coherent Qualities involved:

My thinking is inspired.
I review the facts to discern what is and is not true
I use my intellect and reasoning power to discern the truth.
I confidently ask questions to reason things out.
I have an incisive intellect.

How will you use the energy of the Metal Element Season and the quality of CLEAR INTELLECT to add to your positive life story... where everything makes sense and you anticipate being at the beginning of something wonderful happening for you?

I have options to help you Improve your life story now!...

With light and love

Carolyn Winter

Holographic Coach

The Energy Season of Metal Element - Quality #9 Appreciation & Accomplishment

Carolyn Winter — Mon, 22 Nov 2021 20:20:36 GMT

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The Energy Season of Metal Element

Quality #9 - Appreciation

Are you tapping into the metal element energy of the fall season? Appreciation and acknowledgment are qualities activated at this time of year. It’s no coincidence that celebrations of Thanks Giving (both American and Canadian) are scheduled in this time period. Appreciation is a basic life need. If our needs for being validated and appreciated were not met at a young impressionable age, we can spend a lifetime trying to untangle from the pain of it. We become perfectionists, procrastinators or out of balance entertainers seeking attention where ever we can get it-positive or negative.

Chances are if no one modelled appreciation for you when you were young, you did not learn to do it for yourself and so the pattern persists . Your accomplishments may be long, but you are still driven to do more for the validation, appreciation or acknowledgement that you need. So how do we recover from the remnants of this early life pattern?

Appreciation both for yourself and giving it to others is a very powerful healing tool. When we feel appreciation our field of energy expands and we are motivated to do more for ourselves and others. You don’t need to wait for others to appreciate yourself. Something I learned sometime ago from Dr Dan Baker’s book “What Happy People Know” is that it is scientifically shown that you can’t be in a state of anxiety or worry AND appreciation at the same time. The brain can hold one emotion or the other but not both in the same moment.

Appreciation Rx - If you find yourself unreasonably anxious you could try his recommended exercise of naming what you appreciate about yourself and /or name your accomplishments however small. Actively writing out a list of appreciations for at least a minute will get you some temporary relief. Write for 10 minutes and you will kick start a new more positive brain wave that gets you out of the anxiety loop. Keep it up for an hour and you could be rewiring yourself for a better state of mind.

This week our Americans friends are celebrating Thanksgiving and my love, blessings and appreciation go out to all of you. Thank you for being part of the resonance repatterning community, for your referrals over the last year , for your emails of appreciation and stories of change. It is indeed a privilege to serve you.

What qualities of APPRECIATION do you resonate with? (and broadcast to others?)

Non Coherent Aspects -

I don't take in another persons appreciation of me.
I don't acknowledge myself.
I don't appreciate the little things in life.

Coherent Aspects -

I acknowledge what others do.
I appreciate ________. (name someone relevant to you)
I acknowledge myself for my accomplishments.

How will you use the energy of the Metal Element Season and the quality of APPRECIATION AND ACCOMPLISHMENT to add to your positive life story... where everything makes sense and you anticipate being at the beginning of something wonderful happening for you?

I have options to help you Improve your life story now!...

With light and love

Carolyn

The Energy Season of Metal Element - Quality #7 - Fathering

Carolyn Winter — Mon, 08 Nov 2021 18:00:00 GMT

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The Energy Season of Metal Element

Quality #7 - Fathering

As of September 22, 2021 we are now in the seasonal energy of Metal Element that aligns with autumn in the northern hemisphere. Click here if you are in the southern hemisphere.

One of the most important repatterning topics I facilitate, especially with new clients, is the Parental Repatterning where we focus on our early relationship with one of our parents or primary caregivers and how they did or did not meet our basic life needs. These early parental patterns of non coherence have often set in motion a lifetime of limitations to help us avoid the pain or our needs not being met as we had wished. Our metal element quality focus for this week is on FATHERING.

What is your early experience of your father and your relationship to him?

Ideally, fathers set examples of right and wrong, teach their children values and ideals and being in right action. They can be counted on, trusted, and there to help us problem solve, to protect us and care for us. Filling a positive parenting role, fathers also teach us to set boundaries, be patient, how to discern things and be trusting, respectful and tell the truth. They help us to set goals and encourage us to reach them. As children, our fathers would take us seriously and listen to us or answer our questions.

If our fathers were not there for us as we needed, our metal element quality as adults may become harder to balance or maintain or certain things may trigger us. It may also be more difficult for us to stay in touch with our wise self throughout the day, the part of us that knows how to stay balanced and reach for appropriate behavior and action moment to moment.

How does your perception of your early experiences of your father relate to the obstacles or successes you experience today?

Improve your inner fathering quality with a visualization. Close your eyes and imagine your father and yourself at a pivotal time of your life. Even though he likely never said these things... imagine hearing him say messages such as the following to you...

" I am proud of you."
"If you need my help I am here for you."
"I am behind you 100% whatever you do or want to be."
"I give you my attention."

What qualities of FATHERING do you resonate with? (and broadcast to others?)

Non Coherent Aspects -

I don't know how to be a good father.
There is no father figure in my life.
My father does not provide me with the values that enable me to handle life successfully with integrity.

Coherent Aspects -

I provide positive fathering energy
My father provides me with values and ideals that allow me to handle life circumstances with integrity and right action.
I have positive fathering role models in my life.
I remain connected to my wise self throughout the day and tune into the fathering wisdom it offers me.

How will you use the energy of the Metal Element Season and the quality of FATHERING to add to your positive life story... where everything makes sense and you anticipate being at the beginning of something wonderful happening for you?

I have options to help you Improve your life story now!...

With love and light

Carolyn

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The Energy Season of Metal Element - Quality #6 - Letting Go

Carolyn Winter — Tue, 02 Nov 2021 18:00:00 GMT

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The Energy Season of Metal Element

Quality #6 - Letting Go

As of September 22, 2021 we are now in the seasonal energy of Metal Element that aligns with autumn in the northern hemisphere. Click here if you are in the southern hemisphere.

The fall drama of trees changing their colors ultimately with leaves fluttering to the ground is a colorful reminder of another vital quality of metal element and the fall season - LETTING GO.

The quality of letting go reminds us that 'to everything there is a season...' and that everything has it own life cycle. We can experience many benefits when we are in synch with this quality. For example we may become good at dealing with clutter as it arrives, we let go of things we no longer need perhaps recycling them or repurposing them. We can also let go of the old outdated ways of doing things making it easier to embrace new ways. And we are comfortable accepting things like the computer notice to allow a software update because we know letting go of the old program is a good option to keep our computer running efficiently.

This metal quality also helps us to embrace our own personal growth and integrate new patterns of well being by letting go of the old ways of being that no longer serve us. Often a major obstacle of achieving a higher energy state is that the old pattern feels familiar and comfortable and is easier to keep doing than breaking in a new more positive way of being - like an old pair of comfortable shoes. Cultivating an attitude of letting go of the old way helps us to grow in new desired ways. When we integrate the quality of letting go, we can feel lighter, more productive, and feel a sense of inner freedom.

Challenges: When we have difficulty letting go energy tends to get stuck in our field of resonance and shows up as road blocks in other areas of our lives. For example... our purpose may feel obscured and we can't see things clearly. We feel like we don't have enough time, energy, resources or space to take on new things or feeling frustrated that we are not accomplishing our goals. We may also miss opportunities because of the back log of things and situations we have yet to release. Looking after it all...wee tend to feel drained of energy. What can we do?

Take the time to notice what you are hanging onto in your life and what your thoughts are about each item? Let go of one thing you are ready to release - perhaps some desk top clutter. Notice how you feel with each conscious effort to let go of something. Consciously practice the quality of letting go. Chances are you will be energized.

What qualities of LETTING GO do you resonate with? (and broadcast to others?)

Non Coherent Aspects -

I hold onto material objects I no longer need
I have to save everything just in case I'll need it in the future
I let go of what is important to me prematurely

Coherent Aspects -

I let go of upsets
I easily let go of what I no longer need
I let go of non-coherent relationships when no resolution is found
I declutter my space daily
I regularly name my regrets and let them go

How will you use the energy of the Metal Element Season and the quality of LETTING GO to add to your positive life story... where everything makes sense and you anticipate being at the beginning of something wonderful happening for you?

I have options to help you Improve your life story now!...

With love and light

Carolyn

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The Energy Season of Metal Element Quality #5 - Truth

Carolyn Winter — Tue, 26 Oct 2021 19:10:47 GMT

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The Energy Season of Metal Element

Quality #5 - TRUTH

Do you tell the truth? ...or regularly engage in 'white lies', withholding the truth, or consciously lie to yourself and others? Imagine if you were the children's story Pinocchio character and every time you lied, your nose grew a bit longer. How long would your nose be at the end of the day?

The metal element quality of truth in many ways is a spiritual concept that we can cultivate and consequently use to grow our spiritual awareness or consciousness, taking us towards a path of inner peace and contentment.

Currently the nature of truth is hotly debated in politics and social media, with the public subjected to a daily brazen use of lying or bending the truth. These lies are designed to capture your attention to grow someone else's agenda or point of view. It is not usually based on truth or facts. Obscuring the truth is their primary weapon. In a world of challenges, the lack of truth may be one of the worst for creating misery in our lives. Whether we accept lies or tell them, we weaken our own energy field with self-doubt, lack of respect or lack of integrity and then wonder why we are unhappy.

Real truth has several qualities to look for - to begin with it is absolute - meaning it is what it is - not dependant on anything else. It also corresponds to reality or the way things are. You can recognize it when you see it and feel an inner alignment.

However, since our realities are based on our perspectives and beliefs this can make the truth muddy, because what may be true for you is not true for me. This is another instance where our personal work helps us to better 'see' the truth of our reality. We can in fact peel away layers of patterns until we get to the truth of a matter. Do you consciously or unconsciously accept a lie if it upholds your belief? How often do you tell yourself the truth?

When the quality of truth eludes us or is weak in our field of energy we are easily pulled in by the lies or the negative messages of others, malicious advertising or social media content. Author, Caroline Myss's quote is very apt here. "Watch where your brain goes to feed itself." Notice, if taking in negative stories and disputable facts draws your attention - your metal element may need balancing (or repatterning!).

Truth creates coherence....When we are telling, observing and living our truth, things line up in our field of energy and we feel a strong sense of inner harmony or coherence. We intuitively tend to look for the truth of a matter and facts to back it up, independant of our perspective. We feel at one with the world and totally aligned - even if the reality of some truths hurt. We know what's what or at least feel it as an embodied felt sense. When we are aligned with the quality of truth and living it - we avoid lying to ourselves and others and we can take unhesitating action and speak our truth in the moment without editing ourselves. We also have more energy because we are not constantly monitoring ourselves for the lies we are maintaining.

Can you find facts to support important truths in your life? Truth may take us some time to determine as we move through and heal our patterns of perceptions, values and beliefs. Energize your metal element energy by making a practice of searching for the truth and telling your own truth as much as possible.

What qualities of TRUTH do you resonate with? (and broadcast to others?)

Non Coherent Aspects -

I think I am being truthful when I am not.
I am in denial about what is truly happening
I avoid telling the truth so I can be right and you are wrong.

Coherent Aspects -

I name the truth in a loving way.
I live my truth.
I ask questions and look for facts that support important truths.

How will you use the energy of the Metal Element Season and the quality of TRUTH to add to your positive life story... where everything makes sense and you anticipate being at the beginning of something wonderful happening for you?

I have options to help you Improve your life story now!...

With love and light

Carolyn

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Align With Nature... Metal Element Quality #4 - Perfection

Carolyn Winter — Mon, 18 Oct 2021 18:33:08 GMT

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The Energy Season of Metal Element

Quality #4 - Perfection

As of September 22, 2021 we are now in the seasonal energy of Metal Element that aligns with autumn in the northern hemisphere. Click here if you are in the southern hemisphere.

Are You a Perfectionist Or Do You See the Perfection in Everything? ...

Closely related to last week's metal quality of VALUE is PEFECTION. Resonating with healthy forms of this quality helps us to do our best, and judge when doing our best is really not required or a poor use of inner resources. Coherent qualities of perfection allow us to see life's situations to be in perfect order and find the blessing in what ever we are facing. We can easily accept life as it is and work with what we have yet feel accomplished.

For example, recently I was working on a bag making project. At one point, I hunted high and low for my bottle of fabric glue to use on one of the finishing details. Once i resigned myself to not being able to find the glue, I thought of an even better way to finish the project. The glue reappear when no longer needed! It was perfect!

The non-coherent side of perfection is perfectionism where we are driven to be or appear to be perfect well beyond doing our best. In this state we are often immobilized to perform a task unless we know for sure in advance it will be perfect or keep working at it until it is. It's as though an inner critic sits on our shoulder throughout the day declaring a task not finished because it isn't perfect enough. Perfectionism also interferes with our use of time and timing as we tend to then procrastinate on tasks we don't feel we can do perfectly enough OR we take far too long to complete a task trying to make it perfect. Unfinished tasks then pile up in our life draining our energy.

How does the quality of perfection show up for you in your life? Consider how it affects your work, relationships, friendships, physical activity or your verbal expression? What negative feelings accompany this state of being? How do others react? What is the worst aspect of this quality for you?

What qualities of PERFECTION do you resonate with? (and broadcast to others?)

Non Coherent Aspects -

I am a perfectionist
I am unable to say I am sorry because this will prove I am imperfect
I cannot stand being wrong
I am judgmental of others for not living the perfect ideal all the time

Coherent Aspects -

I experience the divine perfection in my life
I let go of my need to prove that I am the best
Everything is in divine order
I learn from my mistakes

How will you use the energy of the Metal Element Season and the quality of PERFECTION to add to your positive life story... where everything makes sense and you anticipate being at the beginning of something wonderful happening for you?

I have options to help you Improve your life story now!...

With love and light

Carolyn

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Align With Nature... Metal Element Quality #3 - Value

Carolyn Winter — Wed, 13 Oct 2021 20:38:42 GMT

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The Energy Season of Metal Element

Quality #3 - Value

As of September 22, 2021 we are now in the seasonal energy of Metal Element that aligns with autumn in the northern hemisphere. Click here if you are in the southern hemisphere.

What do you value? ..I am always moved to tears to watch the news reports of victims from any number of natural disasters - fires, floods, earthquakes etc. Inevitably, survivors all say with devastation and sadness, that even though they lost many treasured things... they feel lucky that they or their family survived. "Everything else can be replaced"... is the usual refrain.

Coherent metal element does give us the ability to... value things that are important to us, as well as intangible qualities - intellectual gifts, personality, relationships etc. When our metal is coherent we take care of these things, give them a rightful place in our lives and feel energized by their presence in our life. And while we may value material things our coherent metal energy will help us determine what is of true importance and value for us - our family and other relationships.

When our metal element is non coherent we may find ourselves becoming very materialistic - wanting and acquiring things beyond our means to show off and build our self esteem. We may be inclined to hang onto things no longer knowing why we have them or its value to us. Evidence of this pattern may be found in over-flowing drawers, closets, garages, attics etc We may put down others in the workplace to make our own position more important or engage in nasty gossip for the same reason. We may also devalue ourselves and our gifts and talents.

Energize your Metal Element - Boost your metal element energy with this quick journaling exercise. Write out several brain-stormed lists of all the things you value - a My Favorite Things List, top 10 favorite experiences, favorite friendships and relationships, 10 things about you that you appreciate, and 10 things you appreciate about someone in your life who is difficult for you. Notice how you feel and your body sensations as you write out these lists.

How has the metal element quality of VALUE
supported your life story?

What qualities of vALUE do you resonate with? (and broadcast to others?)

Non Coherent Aspects -

I devalue others
Others demean me.
I buy objects to impress people.
I emphasize things of external worth in compensation for my low sense of self worth

Coherent Aspects -

I value myself and others
Others value me.
I appreciate what is of true and lasting value in people and things.

How will you use the energy of the Metal Element Season and the quality of VALUE to add to your positive life story... where everything makes sense and you anticipate being at the beginning of something wonderful happening for you?

I have options to help you Improve your life story now!...

With love and light

Carolyn

Align With Nature... Metal Element Quality #2 - Inspiration

Carolyn Winter — Thu, 07 Oct 2021 19:00:00 GMT

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The Energy Season of Metal Element

Quality #2 - Inspiration

As of September 22, 2021 we are now in the seasonal energy of Metal Element that aligns with autumn in the northern hemisphere. Click here if you are in the southern hemisphere.

When was the last time you felt inspired by something... sso inspired that it moved you to some focused action, impulse or awakening? Do you remember what created the stir of excitement within you to then be in the flow of the new idea you were exploring?

I can vividly recall the rush of excitement learning the principles of Feng Shui, the Color Your World image system, photography basics, and of course resonance repatterning and now integral theory. Each of these concepts provided new learning, new ideas, new ways of creating fulfillment in my life. The phrase "been there, done that, bought the video and TShirt" certainly applies here!

How Inspiration Helps....The coherent state of being inspired is accompanied by other positive states of being that tend to open us up to higher states of conscious awareness. These qualities can help us add to the amazing story of our life that we tell ourselves.

The quality of 'openness to experience and absorption' -in any situation, spontaneous inspiration may occur when we take a position of allowing a new learning or idea to be received without hasty judgment. Think about it... how often do you nix an idea from someone before you have heard all the details? Do you hear yourself saying '...we can't because..'? When you can take the time to explore something (without commitment or judgment) you are opening to a possibility of inspiration.

States of Flow - When we are inspired by something and engage in the possibilities it holds for us personally, we tend to feel more confident, competent, optimistic and well about ourselves. This may also accompany a state of motivation and desire to get things done that puts us in a state of flow.

Meaning and Fulfillment - In a full-out inspired flow state, we are motivated to master our work, stay absorbed and focused on something we are learning. We also feel creative. These states of inspiration helps us to find meaning in our everyday experiences and want to share our experiences with others.

How has the metal element quality of INSPIRATION supported your life story?

What qualities of INSPIRATION do you resonate with? (and broadcast to others?)

Non Coherent Aspects -

I am unable to inspire others with my decisions or ideas
I am cut of from inspiration
I feel uninspired by my spiritual life/work/relationships

Coherent Aspects -

I inspire others
I am inspired by words, art, the beauty of nature, and life experiences
I experience inspiration often
I experience meaning in every aspect of my life

How will you use the energy of the Metal Element Season and the quality of inspiration to add to your positive life story... where everything makes sense and you anticipate being at the beginning of something wonderful happening for you?

I have options to help you Improve your life story now!...

Align With Nature...Earth Element Quality #2 - Security

Carolyn Winter — Thu, 16 Sep 2021 16:50:55 GMT

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The Energy Season of EARTH Element

Quality #2 - Security

How does a feeling of security show up in your life?

Our Earth element quality of security is supported when we take actions such as - lock our doors, drive carefully minding all the traffic rules, mind our belongings out in public, scrutinize too good to be true email offers, memorize passwords, or put valuables in a safety deposit box. It requires us to be discerning, careful and take right timely action.

When we take actions that support our security we can feel relaxed, at peace and have a sense of inner freedom that allows us to venture out into the world. We also know the boundaries for our security and have a sense when our security is compromised or threatened. Many victims of violence report afterwards that they had a sense something bad was going to happen but failed to do take simple actions like crossing the street to avoid a perpetrator.

However, if we are too paranoid about our security we can go overboard with self protection actions. For many people, the pandemic has accelerated this feeling perhaps making it challenging to re-enter the world and feel safe there. Mushrooming security fears may cause us to energetically cut ourselves off from the world for self protection and not live our life fully. We can become constrained by the onset of unfounded fears and anxieties.

What qualities of security do you resonate with?

Non Coherent Aspects:

I create tension in those around me.
I am insecure and anxious.
I am careless with safety and security.
I usually say no to new opportunities so that I can stay safe.

Coherent Aspects:

I am stable and predictable in my relationships.
I am a source of tranquility for others.
I am secure, relaxed and calm inside myself.
I feel safe and secure in a way that allows me to explore my world and new opportunities.

How will you use the energy of the Fire Element Season and the quality of security to add to your positive life story where everything makes sense and you anticipate being at the beginning of something wonderful happening for you?

I have options to help you Improve your life story now!...

I have options to help! Use my (FREE) 5 Seasons repatterning series to boost your energy at any time... To boost your fire element energy for the quality of SECURITY try the Transitions Repatterning for the Earth element. Simply download the notes and use them to follow along with the video adding in your own answers. The hologram has anticipated you!

With light and love

Carolyn Winter
Holographic Coach

Align With Nature...Earth Element Quality #1 - Reaping the Harvest

Carolyn Winter — Sun, 05 Sep 2021 21:40:06 GMT

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The Energy Season of EARTH Element

Quality #1 - Reaping the Harvest

The 5th Season - Are you aligning with the seasonal energy patterns and all of their respective positive qualities? While the calendar points out 4 distinct seasons that energetically each line up with a season (Fall, Winter, Spring, Summer), there is hidden 5th energy season to be aware of. The 'season' of EARTH ELEMENT. This seasonal energy happens 4 times per year for a few weeks in between each season and also has with it a number of related qualities that you can activate to support yourself. You could think of it as the seasonal energy of TRANSITIONS.

Have you noticed how your day is affected by this energy?

Energetically, we are now in the 'in-between' season of Earth Element that happens between summer and fall in the northern hemisphere. Here in Toronto we could really feel the arrival of this energy with a dramatic drop in temperature going from sweltering daytime highs of 105 °F to the low 70's °F. The chill in the air brings a reminder that carefree days of summer fun are over and it's time to get ready for...going back to work or school or get ready for the winter. The markets are flourishing with the season's harvest of plums, pears, the last of the peaches and corn and more. It used to be a time of year when many households would can or 'put up' their garden harvests - an activity the synchs up perfectly with the Earth Element quality of "Reaping the Harvest". Many small towns and cities celebrate with an end of season 'fair' for a last hurrah of summer fun while celebrating the local harvests.

Reaping Your Harvest

Our current transitional energy asks us to review the seeds (or goals/intentions) we planted last spring. Now it's time to take stock of all that we have planted and reap our harvest whether it is your garden produce or metaphorically your life plans, your work, your projects, etc. For example...

At work - It's a great time to evaluate your targets and plans at work, celebrate successes, and appreciate accomplishments. Any regrets?

Personal Plans - How did your plans for personal growth and change work out? Did therapy, alternative healing or growth webinars help you? (or Holographic Coaching with me?) Name one new insight about yourself that you attained in the last few months.

Learning New Things - life today especially online is all about fearlessly learning new things or ways of doing things. What did you learn in the last few months and how is it helping you? What do you have left to learn? Have you mastered an aspect of social media, google docs or something on your computer? Did you finish the webinars you bought this year and use them to their fullest?

Relationships - What effort did you put in to get around all the covid restrictions and the post covid challenges to reconnect with others as restrictions were lifted? How have your relationships with others benefitted? .

Reap the harvest of your life experiences and notice your energy in the next 2-3 weeks. How is it changing for you?

What qualities of Reaping the Harvest do you resonate with? (and broadcast to others?)

Non Coherent Aspects -

I fail to harvest riches from my experiences
I am unable to see the positive in difficult circumstances or situations
I have no reserves to draw on in times of need.

Coherent Aspects -

Ieap the full harvest of my rich life experiences
I reap what is positive even from difficult situations
I celebrate the harvest accomplishments, natural endings, and new perspectives I have gained

How will you use the energy of the Fire Element Season and the quality of Reaping the Harvest to add to your positive life story where everything makes sense and you anticipate being at the beginning of something wonderful happening for you?

I have options to help you Improve your life story now!...

I have options to help! Use my (FREE) 5 Seasons repatterning series to boost your energy at any time... To boost your fire element energy for the quality of Reaping the Harvest try the Transitions Repatterning for the Earth element. Simply download the notes and use them to follow along with the video adding in your own answers. The hologram has anticipated you!

With light and love

Carolyn Winter
Holographic Coach

Align With Nature...Summertime Quality #10 - JOY!

Carolyn Winter — Sun, 29 Aug 2021 21:17:19 GMT

Create a better life story when you resonate with
the best of nature and your relationships...

Our final weekly focus for the Fire Element season of summer is the quality of JOY. What fills you with joy, exuberant self expression, blissful abandon and happiness?

When was the last time you can recall being in a state of joy?

As we travel our personal holographic universe, resolving life issues and getting our needs met can be challenging causing our daily focus to default towards problems. We may get into a bad habit of starting the day wondering what shoe will drop now or what big problem is coming my way? ...soon forgetting our personal goals and what makes us happy and content.

However, if our Fire Element energy is coherent and balanced, the summer time season may especially help us to activate our natural quality of joy - despite life's obstacles.

When we feel joy or remember a time when we were joyful, it brings with it a very high energizing frequency and rush of endorphins that helps us manage life's problems efficiently. We feel healthy and optimistic. We enjoy the day making the best of miserable weather or other circumstances, always finding a reason to smile or enjoy life. In a state of natural joy we tend to light up a room and set others vibrating with joy as well.

GET MORE JOY... Joy is a quality that may be cultivated and truly help us create a positive life story.

For example we can make a daily habit of naming and letting go of our regrets and listing all of our appreciations...Or - we can take some time to notice the beauty of nature and the inner light of people who surround us.

Try any of these actions and get in touch with the feeling of unexplained joy.

You will be uplifted.

What qualities of JOY do you resonate with? (and broadcast to others?)

Non Coherent Aspects -

I can't connect with others joyfully and with humor
I can't let go and be playful
i have no joy in life.

Coherent Aspects -

I am happy within myself.
I am joyful, playful and full of laughter and fun
The inner light of others, and the perfection of nature uplifts me.
I make time to do something each day that brings me joy.

How will you use the energy of the Fire Element Season and the quality of JOY to add to your positive life story where everything makes sense and you anticipate being at the beginning of something wonderful happening for you?

I have options to help you Improve your life story now!...

I have options to help! Use my (FREE) 5 Seasons repatterning series to boost your energy at any time... To boost your fire element energy for the quality of Joy try the Summer Season Repatterning for the Fire element. Simply download the notes and use them to follow along with the video adding in your own answers. The hologram has anticipated you!

With light and love

Carolyn Winter
Holographic Coach

Align With Nature...Summertime Quality #9 - Maturity

Carolyn Winter — Tue, 24 Aug 2021 17:32:00 GMT

Create a better life story when you resonate with
the best of nature and your relationships...

The Energy Season of Fire Element

Quality #9 - Maturity

How accepting are you of the aging process? Are you feeling old -like life is passing you by? Or are you feeling that aging is something that belongs to someone else not you?

It is important to resonate with our stage of life and the full potential of what each stage offers us. When it comes to the Fire Element quality of MATURITY we are luckily supported by the baby boomer group of the population.

Boomers have been changing the norms of what is acceptable for every stage of the life cycle since the 60's and as they(we) mature - aging is also being redefined. This group has opened the door to uncharted territories of what it means to become old. What any of us do at this stage will set a new normal for generations to come!

In the mix of changes are societal expectations for a longer lifespan, retirement well past a previous requirement of 65 years, and a longer healthspan. When we are seniors, we are now more likely to expect to live longer and participate longer in the economy, in some adapted way that taps into our wisdom and experience.

How we spend our money also matters. What is emerging is a longevity economy where seniors have a voice and figure prominently.

It's a title wave of consciousness that is supported by the fact that seniors world wide aged 65 or older outnumbered children younger than five globally for the first time in 2018. This group demands to be seen, heard, valued and respected. It is a global consciousness we can also tap into and contribute to with our self-perception for maturity.

Do you resonate with accepting your age, life stage and growing older?
Do you have dreams, plans or desires to keep going with self employment, projects, or passions?
When you shop do you insist on products designed for your life stage or do you try to fit into the 'forever young' advertising?
Who or what do you want to be as you grow older?
How do family members, friends and others relate to you as you mature?

When our Fire Element is coherent, so too is our quality of maturity. We are more likely to challenge old notions of aging, live the next chapter of our lives with fulfillment pursuing our passions and being happy and content. Reflect on how the quality of maturity shows up for you and where it may need to improve to serve you better.

What qualities of Maturity do you resonate with? (and broadcast to others?)

Non Coherent Aspects -

I am immature.
I do anything to look younger than i am, even at the cost of my well being.
I am afraid of getting old.
I am burnt out

Coherent Aspects -

I accept the aging process with joy and humour
I enjoy the natural maturing process.
I pursue my passions gracefully no matter what age.
Each day I feel a sense of contentment and fulfillment.

How will you use the energy of the Fire Element Season and the quality of MATURITY to add to your positive life story where everything makes sense and you anticipate being at the beginning of something wonderful happening for you?

I have options to help you Improve your life story now!...

I have options to help! Use my (FREE) 5 Seasons repatterning series to boost your energy at any time... To boost your fire element energy for the quality of Maturity try the Summer Season Repatterning for the Fire element. Simply download the notes and use them to follow along with the video adding in your own answers. The hologram has anticipated you!

With light and love

Carolyn Winter
Holographic Coach

Align With Nature...Summertime Quality #8 - Sorting Things Out

Carolyn Winter — Sat, 21 Aug 2021 16:30:00 GMT

Create a better life story when you resonate with
the best of nature and your relationships...

The Energy Season of Fire Element

Quality #8 - Sorting Things Out

Where are you experiencing a split in your life or feel confused? How is your ability to sort things out?

Our ability to 'sort things out' is a Fire Element quality that is energetically associated with the small intestine meridian and active during the summer season. When our Fire Element is coherent we find the 'sorting out quality' helps us to easily make moment to moment decisions - what junk mail to keep or throw away, where to put things when tidying up, which calls to take now or later. The task of decluttering or moving homes benefits from this quality!

It also helps us to be discriminating as to who to spend time with and who to avoid and to listen to our heart's truth. Do you hang out with people that uplift you or put you down in some way? Are you in denial about your needs and feelings putting up with situations that are draining you?

The small intestine meridian helps us to digest what we have taken in distributing what is coherent and nourishing for us and sending everything else ot the large intestine for elimination. We are able to listen attentively, have clarity about our priorities that support an enriched life, and benefit from the gift of wise insight. We enjoy life's challenges and have a sense of fun and joy.

What qualities of Sorting Out do you resonate with? (and broadcast to others?)

Non Coherent Aspects -

I don' t know what to keep or what to let go of"
I am unable to finish a task
I am split between 2 jobs/relationships/different ways of living (pick one that may apply to you)

Coherent Aspects -

I choose the right people to work with me or do a project
I find what is good in any relationship. / I enjoy the challenge of relationship.
I easily finish tasks.
I know my direction/ I have clarity

How will you use the energy of the Fire Element Season and the quality of sorting out to add to your positive life story where everything makes sense and you anticipate being at the beginning of something wonderful happening for you?

I have options to help you Improve your life story now!...

I have options to help! Use my (FREE) 5 Seasons repatterning series to boost your energy at any time... To boost your fire element energy for the quality of BALANCE try the Summer Season Repatterning for the Fire element. Simply download the notes and use them to follow along with the video adding in your own answers. The hologram has anticipated you!

With light and love

Carolyn Winter
Holographic Coach

Align With Nature...Summertime Quality #7 - Positive Control

Carolyn Winter — Mon, 16 Aug 2021 15:59:03 GMT

Create a better life story when you resonate with the best of nature and your relationships...

The Energy Season of Fire Element

Quality #7 - Positive Control

Have you experienced a time, when life seemed to be out of control for you? It can feel very unsettling and raise our stress and anxiety levels.

Having Positive Control is another Fire Element quality that helps us to manage the stream of life events coming towards us. Everytime we handle a situation with power, self control, good habits, grace and compassionate intent etc. we add those experiences and associated feelings to our library of life stories. The more frequent and positive our stories of how we handled things...the more our brain reaches for them to help us manage the next unexpected set of events in our life. Our quality of positive control is also strengthened.

We barely notice these stories, but they help us negotiate the upsets of life that are sure to come along as well as support our intentions for good habits, relationships and more.

When our Fire Element is coherent, so too is our quality of having and building positive control. We find ourselves managing life, relationships, time, habits and more with ease and good humor. Reflect on how this quality shows up for you and where it may need to improve to serve you better.

What qualities of Positive Control do you resonate with? (and broadcast to others?)

Non Coherent Aspects - "I am chaotic."; "My life feels out of control."; "I am overly controlling of others."; "I am controlled by ______(fill in with a name relevant to you - if any)."

Coherent Aspects - "I exert positive control over myself."; "I exert positive control over my habits."; "I exert positive control over my finances and spending."; "I create order in my life."

How will you use the energy of the Fire Element Season and the quality of positive control to add to your positive life story where everything makes sense and you anticipate being at the beginning of something wonderful happening for you?

I have options to help you Improve your life story now!...

With light and love

Carolyn Winter
Holographic Coach

Align with Nature Summertime Quality #6 - Communication and Connection

Carolyn Winter — Sun, 01 Aug 2021 15:28:14 GMT

The Energy Season of Fire Element

Quality #6 - Communication & Connection

Our ability to connect with others, hear them and to feel heard is yet another Fire Element quality activated in the season of summer. Qualities of communication and connection give us the ability to form fulfilling relationships no matter how brief. It helps us to express ourselves comfortably with close family and friends, as well as other groups such those we may meet at church, at work or simply with strangers at a store que or public event.

When this energy is coherent... we easily make warm eye contact, express pleasantries with others, or have deeper conversations. We are adept at helping others to join in and ask for their opinion. Our heart felt communications puts others at ease and builds trust.

This is a great quality to access when you are meeting new people such as on vacation or visits with family and friends you have not seen in a long time. This quality will make it seem like you have never lost touch. In a zoom call, especially with strangers, this quality puts everyone at ease and meetings flow with open communication.

How do the summertime qualities of communication and connection support you? Where does your communication style let you down and create problems? Where would you like to experience more connection with others?

What qualities of COMMUNICATION & CONNECTION do you resonate with? (and broadcast to others?)

Non Coherent Aspects - "I feel awkward in social communications."; "I experience miscommunications in my life."; "I can't communicate from my heart or feelings."; "I can't stop talking."

Coherent Aspects - "I listen to others and take in the riches of what they offer."; "I feel relaxed at ease in social situations and with people I don't know, getting a conversation going and enjoying listening and talking."; People are naturally attracted to my warmth and brightness and i enjoy relation with everyone."

How will you use the energy of the Fire Element Season and the quality of communication and connection to add to your positive life story where everything makes sense and you anticipate being at the beginning of something wonderful happening for you?

I have options to help you Improve your life story now!...

With light and love

Carolyn Winter
Holographic Coach

Align With Nature...Summertime Quality #5 - Protection

Carolyn Winter — Mon, 26 Jul 2021 15:11:11 GMT

The Energy Season of Fire Element

Quality #5 - Protection

The quality of PROTECTION is energetically rooted in the Fire Element acupuncture meridian called The Heart Protector. It's sole job is to protect the heart and in doing so performs much like a sentry guard at the palace gate or the gate-keeper. All the other 11 meridians of our energy system count on this one to be able to do their own job function of keeping us happy, healthy and whole. If the Heart Protector falls down on the job the other meridians fall into chaos as well.

The heart protector helps us to take actions to keep ourselves safe and protected from harm - physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually and in relationship to others. When non coherent, we can feel alone, accident prone, we may mask our true feelings of hurt with laughter; we don't feel safe in close intimate relationships and may prefer to do without them.

When the Heart Protector is doing it's job the quality of PROTECTION is naturally regulating our thoughts and actions. We anticipate safety issues in our environment and make changes as necessary (wearing a mask in public, unplugging the iron, moving a sharp knife to a safe place on the counter, following the traffic signs for speed, caution etc). We avoid threatening situations and can trust our ability to discern if someone is trustworthy or not. In relationship, we trust ourselves to be vulnerable with our intimate partner. We are also able to face past traumas of closeness and intimacy and do the work of healing them often with a therapist or other healer.

Our Heart Protector regulates many decisions made throughout the day that keeps us safe. This quality of PROTECTION is activated energetically during the summer season. Take a few moments to reflect on your own quality of self-protection. Do you feel safe? Do you easily take safety precautions or take big risks to your safety? Are you able to trust who is good for you and who is not? .

What qualities of PROTECTION do you resonate with? (and broadcast to others?)

Non Coherent Aspects - "I am accident prone."; "I distrust people."; "I get hurt"; or "I feel vulnerable, insecure and unprotected."

Coherent Aspects - "My immune system protects me"; "I feel safe and open with people."; "I am safe and accident free."

How will you use the energy of the Fire Element Season and the quality of protection to add to your positive life story where everything makes sense and you anticipate being at the beginning of something wonderful happening for you?

I have options to help you Improve your life story now!...

With light and love

Carolyn Winter
Holographic Coach

Align With Nature...Summertime Quality #4 - Open Heartedness

Carolyn Winter — Tue, 20 Jul 2021 02:31:49 GMT

The Energy Season of Fire Element

Quality #4 - Open-Heartedness

The HeartMath Institute claims that the frequency of our physical heart can project out into a room as much as 50 feet! Coupled together with the fire element quality of open-heartedness, this physicality of our hearts energy affects how we relate to other people well before we may have said anything to them! Being open-hearted, especially in the face of challenges, requires that we tap into our inner sense of unconditional love and forgiveness. It's a place that can require us to be vulnerable, and courageous as we radically accept what is for any given situation and reach for it's higher purpose for us. Sometimes, it challenges us to set aside our beliefs and values to provide the allowing and accepting others need from us. When we are open-hearted we easily seek to find the higher perspective that explains all and allows love to flow.

In the world of energy - love melts all negativity!

What we project from our heart is often mirrored in all of our relationships. When it is open and loving we can as easily say 'hello' and act considerately with strangers as we do warmly embracing a close friend. Our presence brings pleasure to everyone we meet.

How is your open heart reflected in your network of family, friends, neighbors and colleagues? Do you need to dial your hearts love up or down?

What qualities of OPEN-HEARTEDNESS do you resonate with? (and broadcast to others?)

Non Coherent Aspects - "People reject me."; "People hurt me."; "I am overly serious in my relationships."; or "My heart feels closed to people."

Coherent Aspects - I enjoy people."; "People are drawn to me."; I enjoy fun and laughter in my relationships."

How will you use the energy of the Fire Element Season and the quality of open-heartedness to add to your positive life story where everything makes sense and you anticipate being at the beginning of something wonderful happening for you?

I have options to help you Improve your life story now!...

With light and love

Carolyn Winter
Holographic Coach

Align With Nature...Summertime Quality #3 - Balance

Carolyn Winter — Mon, 12 Jul 2021 20:03:00 GMT

The Energy Season of Fire Element

Quality #3 - Balance

Summertime's fire element energy comes with an internal thermostat - the quality of balance. This quality is regulated by our Triple Heater meridian line of energy, helping us to regulate our body temperature on the physical level. On emotional, mental and spiritual levels, balance regulates the quality of our relationships. When it is coherent we experience balanced giving and receiving, we balance our social time versus down time to recharge and we easily say 'yes' or 'no' to invitations for the use of our time so that our activities are aligned to our goals.

When our thermostat is out of whack we can find...ourselves being the one who always gives and never receives, or we are always the receiver with little to give. These positions will weaken our relationships with resentment by or power struggles with our givers or receivers. We may find ourselves partying too much, staying up too late and becoming chronically tired and de-energized.

Check in with your thermostat by reviewing your social calendar, your giving/receiving habits and the daily choices you are making. Are you maintaining the best temperature for you?

What qualities of BALANCE do you resonate with? (and broadcast to others?)

Non Coherent Aspects - "I have temperature imbalances.","I lose my mental equilibrium in relationship"; "In relationships I give more than I receive."; "In my relationships I take more than I give."

Coherent Aspects - "I have harmonious relationships."; "I experience balanced temperature in my emotional and mental states."; "In my relationships I balance my giving with receiving"

How will you use the energy of the Fire Element Season and the quality of Balance to add to your positive life story where everything makes sense and you anticipate being at the beginning of something wonderful happening for you?

I have options to help you Improve your life story now!...

With light and love

Carolyn Winter
Holographic Coach

Align with Nature...Summertime Quality #2- Compassion

Carolyn Winter — Mon, 05 Jul 2021 19:50:00 GMT

The Energy Season of Fire Element

Quality #2 - Compassion

The quality of compassion is considered to be a primary principle of human flourishing. According to the organization "Charter of Compassion" compassionate people tend to...

live longer
are less depressed
have less cognitive decline
experience less cardio vascular disease, and
have fewer medical visits among a long list of positive findings.

When we exercise compassion, we become less rigid, willing accept gray areas in life and consequently our judgments are less critical and more understanding. We become likelable because our very presence can bring a sense of calm and acceptance among a group of people.

We must first learn to exercise compassion for ourselves cultivating the art of naming and letting go of our regrets, as well as appreciating our daily accomplishments, learning and insights.

What qualities of COMPASSION do you resonate with? (and broadcast to others?)

Non Coherent Aspects - "I do not understand another's suffering.","My heart is closed." "What's in it for me?"

Coherent Aspects - "I bring compassion to all my relationships."; " I exercise compassionate judgement with awareness and caring intent."; I feel for others' suffering while maintaining my sense of self."; "I choose compassion over criticism."

How will you use the energy of the Fire Element Season and the quality of Compassion to add to your positive life story where everything makes sense and you anticipate being at the beginning of something wonderful happening for you?

I have options to help! Use my (FREE) 5 Seasons repatterning series to boost your energy at any time... To boost your fire element energy for the quality of COMPASSION try the Summer Season Repatterning for the Fire element. Simply download the notes and use them to follow along with the video adding in your own answers. The hologram has anticipated you!

With light and love

Carolyn Winter
Holographic Coach

Align with Nature...Summertime #1 Warmth

Carolyn Winter — Fri, 02 Jul 2021 06:00:00 GMT

The Energy Season of Fire Element
Quality #1 - Warmth

Our current seasonal energy of Fire Element has much to do with the quality of our relationships and how we connect with others. When entering a situation where there are new people we have an underlying need to feel welcomed and accepted. Warm initial greetings can help to convey this feeling of being welcomed and opens us our energy field to enriching exchanges of energy.

However, the part of the brain that is constantly looking out for danger or the sky falling in, can reduce our body language to something more cautious, stern, and aloof. Unconsciously we are on red alert for problems and broadcast that to others. We can miss out on many wonderful relationship connections as a result.

What qualities of WARMTH do you resonate with? (and broadcast to others?)

Non Coherent Aspects -

"I am indifferent." ,
"I am cold.",
"I feel tepid in my relationships."

Coherent Aspects - I

"am warm, loving and affectionate.",
"I am spontaneous and playful with others.",
"I smile at everyone and bring joy into their life."

How will you use the energy of the Fire Element Season and the quality of warmth to add to your positive life story where everything makes sense and you anticipate being at the beginning of something wonderful happening for you?

I have options to help! Use my (FREE) 5 Seasons repatterning series to boost your energy at any time... To boost your fire element energy for the quality of WARMTH try the Summer Season Repatterning for the Fire element. Simply download the notes and use them to follow along with the video adding in your own answers. The hologram has anticipated you!

With love and light

Carolyn

Are you hopeful about where your life is going?

Carolyn Winter — Sun, 25 Apr 2021 18:37:00 GMT

It's spring here in Toronto and typically the wood element qualities of this energy are all around us, - new beginnings, creativity, hope, positive self-assertion potential, identity and more. But we are no longer in typical times with the 3rd and 4th wave of the pandemic crushing the hopes of many people everywhere that the pandemic rages. While most of us are surviving, we are not really flourishing. A recent New York Times article says it all.... THERE’S A NAME FOR THE BLAH YOU’RE FEELING: IT’S CALLED LANGUISHING. Languishing is the word I think brilliantly captures how many are experiencing life in general if not the spring season. It is the non-coherent side of wood element energy.

The article claims if you are suffering from this non coherent state of being you are not alone and that I - feel, may be part of the problem. You are tapping into the collective energy – a morphic field of resonance of this frequency. Conscious deliberate actions may be the way out.

Like the daisies pictured above we need to be aware of our state of being and reach for a healthier response to life. The daisies remind me of the qualities of hopefulness and positive self-assertion as the flowers defy hard gravel and cement (our collective feeling response about the pandemic) to find the light no matter how limited their space. Now that is optimism!

Make the most of this season of new beginnings – pandemic and all. Here are a few tips to help move that energy.

1. Name Regrets and Appreciations - The metal element exercise of naming your regrets can help kick start an improved energy cycle for you and move into the benefits of springtime energy. At the end of each day name your regrets and chase it down with at least 3 good things that happened for you today. You get an endorphin boost if you write these down. To address the monotony of pandemic days blurring together, record your regrets in a journal and date each day. As you look back in your journal chances are you will note progress!

2. Revisit Your Life Vision - This is an outstanding time to review (or establish!) a life vision intention for yourself and list some short and long-term goals. What small movement can you take to move your vision along?

Members here at www.LightTravels.com – Login to your account and visit your Profile page (see the link in the drop down under the login icon). Scroll down and you will find a place to record your Life Vision Intention. Return there to remind yourself about what you wrote and where you are headed next in your life. FYI you can also use this same statement in every group session I offer here at LightTravels.com

Spend some time with your Life Vision statement and visualize the possibilities to get in touch with the quality of optimism within yourself.

3. One last idea to grow wood element energy within yourself, - literally plant some seeds! You don't have to be a big time gardener to get into wood element. Buy a packet of flower seeds and get them started according to the directions. You will find the daily act of watering your seeds, watching them sprout, grow, really grow and then blossom will invoke many wood element qualities - anticipation, potential, hope, optimism, focus, timing, new beginnings and vision. For the cost of a simple packet of seeds, the energy return is priceless. Use it to ponder with more optimism and hope about where your life is going.

Lastly if you are seriously suffering from pandemic blues, consider a session with your therapist, or book a repatterning session with me to access your inner knowing and reboot your state of being.

With love and light

Carolyn Winter

PS - you may also find the free Spring Equinox Repatterning session to be helpful. Download the notes and use them to follow along with the video or audio. Notice how the hologram anticipated you!

Who Are You Today? Update Your Identity Resonance!

Carolyn Winter — Sat, 10 Apr 2021 21:59:36 GMT

'All that is gold does not glitter,
Not all those who wander are lost;
The old that is strong does not wither,
Deep roots are not reached by the frost.

From the ashes a fire shall be woken,
A light from the shadows shall spring;
Renewed shall be blade that was broken,
The crownless again shall be king.'

— J.R.R. Tolkien, The Riddle of Strider, The Lord of the Rings: The Fellowship of the Ring

Our perception of ourselves and our unique identity starts to form from a very young age but according to psychologists is fully structured during adolescence. Our identity is a collage of beliefs, values, behaviors and energy patterns that we absorbed from our family system, our cultural ties, and early experiences. This identity helps us to negotiate how we live our life, make decisions with ease and have confidence or not!

However, as we integrate life experiences and add to our life story our identity can be challenged and change. In the process, we may become confused as to who we really are. This is often the experience of young adults going away to college and absorbing new ideas very different from their family and culture. But adults of any age or stage of life may also find their identity uprooted and suddenly feel lost for any number of reasons....

Perhaps you are conflicted between what you now want for your life and what your family expects of you
You find that your values are now quite different from your family or close circle of friends
With the pandemic experience many many people have spent considerable time evaluating how they are living their life and make new decisions about what really matters.
Maybe you have started evolving your spiritual self and have a new way of seeing your spiritual side that does not always meet with your group’s approval.
Milestone birthdays can also trigger an identity crisis as we tend to evaluate life goals and check off our accomplishments.

All of these circumstances and no doubt more, can cause us to either lose our sense of self-identity or feel a little lost. Our confidence can be rattled.

Consciously updating our self-identity gives us the opportunity to integrate our life experiences, acknowledge our new wisdom, our new world views, and set a new course for what we want next in our life that is enriching, uplifting and fulfilling.

Get to know your new you! Here are some suggested strategies ...

1. Meditation and reflection or contemplation of the daily stream of events in our lives can help with this process. Recording your thoughts in a journal can also help.

2. Name 3 things... A great exercise to end each day and integrate the the new things emerging for you is to list your regrets for the day and the things you appreciated that happened for you. Name at least 3 things for each.

3. Create a MY ACCOMPLISMENTS album - use your smart phone to make a quick snap of something you have accomplished, created etc and store it in an album private to you. This could contain pictures of your last diploma, certificate of achievement, drivers license, creative project, that lovely dinner party you hosted, etc. Flick through your album from time to time to remind yourself "I DID THAT!"

Repatterning can also help by tapping into our unconscious mind to identify the new patterns of being that we need to resonate with to enjoy.

Have you noticed your own self-identity change? Noticing the noticing can help anchor the new you!

With love and light

Carolyn Winter, Holographic Coach

Navigating a Personal Holographic Universe!

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What is Your Future Self Whispering?

Carolyn Winter — Fri, 12 Mar 2021 19:39:28 GMT

I hear my future whispering... "hang in there, its almost over. Start planning that celebration. Don't waste another minute of 'me' time. Get ready! Did you ever sew up those matching napkins? "

So looking forward to having the company of friends around the table for tea once again in the not too distance future.

What is your future whispering to you?

Love and light
Carolyn

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What is the higher purpose of the Pandemic (in your opinion) for the world at large or mother earth?

Carolyn Winter — Wed, 03 Mar 2021 21:07:36 GMT

What is the higher purpose of the Pandemic (in your opinion) for the world at large or mother earth? How will humanity's responses to the pandemic serve the world in a positive way?

To share your insights in the comments section, press the 3 dots in the dark gray box beside the title and select "Add Comment".

With love and light

Carolyn

PS - I will publish a roundup of comments in an upcoming newsletter.

What is the higher purpose of the Pandemic for you personally?

Carolyn Winter — Wed, 03 Mar 2021 20:55:35 GMT

What is the higher purpose of the Pandemic for you you personally? What silver lining, learning, insight or positive experiences has it brought to you? To share your insights in the comments section, press the 3 dots in the dark gray box beside the title and select "Add Comment".

with love and light

Carolyn

PS - I will publish a roundup of comments in an upcoming newsletter.

Understanding - What is the higher purpose of your experience?

Carolyn Winter — Wed, 03 Mar 2021 20:33:08 GMT

It is a key question asked in many of the Repatternings I have facilitated in the last 20 years. "What is the higher purpose of your (name the experience)". The question implies that every experience no matter how challenging has been orchestrated by the universe at some level and provides us with a silver lining, a learning, a new strength, life resolve, or perhaps an opportunity we would not have acted on other-wise. It helps us to gain perspective and find meaning in our lives.

In my holographic coaching sessions, many of you visibly dislike being asked that question especially if the experience was painful or indeed undeserved. I usually persevere in the asking because of the value it brings to your session. It is a great question to ponder to make sense of any life situation and also to energize our other goals and intentions.

Energetically our intentions all have a inner blueprint for their manifestation stored in our depths and connected to the non-local field of intelligence - held in a unified field of awareness which we all share. The 'field' of energy which would like nothing more than to manifest our intentions for us, is constantly whispering to us, giving us hints, trying to get our attention for actions to take toward our goals etc. For most of us the busy-ness of our day makes it difficult to pause, tune in, and hear those messages. So we ignore them and grumble that intentions don't work.

Recently, I was pondering that question for myself, wondering what the higher purpose was of my miserable last year of high-school. I had applied to the University of Guelph for a new program - one of the first in its time, called Child Studies. The entrance requirements were high including 2 maths - not my strong point. I was not doing well in one of the maths and it looked like I would not be accepted to the program. One thing led to another and I was resigned to take a gap year in an attempt to improve my grades and meet requirements for this specialized university program.

During the gap year, it did not take long to realize the benefits - having lucked into a well paying gap year job, and meeting a student from the same university who knew her way around the college and coached me on next steps. She had suggestions that I would never have found on my own. While it took one year and one semester longer than my peers to get there... I ultimately got into my ideal course of study. I felt lucky.

However, reflecting again all these decades later about the higher purpose of that disappointing high school experience, I am profoundly struck on how it shaped my thinking and life direction and ulitmately how it is focusing the development of my work now. In hindsight, my late start in that course of study coincided with a profound shift in mandate at the university. During my gap year, the university over-hauled their 1920's agricultural college roots philosophy with an expansive, inclusive, wholistic mission, vision and core values statement that each college from Arts college to Veterinarians implemented in their course requirements and curriculum. The university adopted the view that they were an integral part of a community, country and the world and that a graduate need to be educated on all of those views.

As a result, my first full year, was greeted with newly recruited professors from prestigious USA universities with cutting edge knowledge of the new field of early childhood education. Had I started the year before, I would not have had the benefit of their worldly instruction. What I did not realize at the time was how unique our curriculum was in training us to hold multiple perspectives and world views different from our own background. In many ways it prepared me for the repatterning work I do today and where I plan to take it in the next chapter of my career.

The higher purpose of my imposed gap year as it turns out, was not only to get me there, but to also support me in having a more integral understanding of the world and to bring that understanding to any work I do - for the benefit of everyone.

Now I look at that question "What is the higher purpose of your experience?" with awe and can't ask it enough!

Take the challenge! - I invite you to play with this notion as you navigate your personal holographic universe. Looking at our present moment experiences of the Pandemic and all that it is doing to our lives on so many levels, I ask you to ponder the higher purpose and share your reflections at the respective blog post links below. For the next 10 days, you won't have to login to reply. Just click the link and then the reply button to share. Answer either one or both.

1. What is the higher purpose of the Pandemic for you you personally? What silver lining, learning, insight or positive experiences has it brought to you? Click here to REPLY

2. What is the higher purpose of the Pandemic (in your opinion) for the world at large or mother earth? How will humanity's responses to the pandemic serve the world in a positive way? Click here to REPLY

I am looking forward to hearing your insights!

With love and light

Carolyn

PS - I will publish a round-up of replies in an upcoming newsletter.

What are Your Ghosts of Christmas Past?

Carolyn Winter — Sun, 20 Dec 2020 13:30:00 GMT

Our resonance with non-coherent patterns of distress can get a whole lot worse during the holiday season, either because of the acceleration of commitments and things to do leaves us on a short fuse or because the usual work commitments slow down and suddenly we have time on our hands. Either scenario may find us invoking and encountering the ghosts from Christmas past that inspired Charles Dickens. If we are overly busy we can react to the slightest thing that reminds us of unresolved hurts. In reaction our angry responses can flow like volcanic ash stopping anyone in our path by yelling, insulting, criticizing, judging others etc. On the other hand with time on our hands, especially during a pandemic lock down, we may have more time to reflect and go to the places in our psyche that need healing. We may feel mildly depress, sad for no reason or notice that any number of Christmas movie specials can bring on tears that go way beyond the movie. Some time ago, at a social gathering someone was asked what their favorite Christmas carol was as a child. There was an awkward pause and then the realization and explanation that there were no songs of joy in the past for this person to access. In that moment of answering an innocent question she went directly to the ghosts who had never been forgiven.

In Charles Dickens’ tale of the Christmas Carol, Scrooge albeit reluctantly, takes the opportunity to meet with his ghosts of Christmas past and in a sense repatterns his resonance with these experiences. The experiences themselves really happened and can’t be changed. What is in our control is our responses and emotional well-being. By looking at the turning point events of his life, and taking in the wisdom of the ghosts, he gains a new perspective that makes it easier for him to understand himself, forgive and be forgiven. His energy no longer goes to the place of anger, revenge, greed etc. . Instead it goes wholeheartedly towards keeping the season in the present. The past remains in the past.

Like Scrooge are you allowing yourself to meet your ghosts and get a new perspective? For many the holiday season presents an opportunity to get to the source of a core issue in their lives and do healing work that clears away the invisible blocks causing limitation or pain. Take the time this holiday season to meet your ghosts, journal about their stories, and perspectives. What new insights do you have of these past events? What action did you want to take but could not? Or what action would you like to take back? What are your regrets? If your insights feel over-whelming, consider enrolling the help of a professional counselor, therapist, spiritual mentor or coach. It is an opportunity to clear away inner burdens that have been holding you back in ways you barely recognize. Dealing with the ghosts will help you to enjoy the season and start the new year with coherent energy to move towards your very best.

Of course be sure to join the Repatterning for the Earth Element (In between season) , where I will be uncovering all non-coherent patterns related to our having “The best holiday season ever.”

With love and light

Carolyn Winter, Holographic Coach

6 Healing Tips to Deal With the Pressures of The Holiday Express

Carolyn Winter — Sat, 19 Dec 2020 19:15:20 GMT

When the holiday rush turns everything upside down!

This is the week I usually feel the pressure of the season the most though not so much this year due to the Covid Lockdown. The realization that I will never get the 100 ‘good things’ ideas from Martha Stewart magazine done is finally dawning on me, the fabulous presents that I am hand-making are looking for a team of elves to help out for completion on time, and there is the balancing needed for all of the social events. Everything seems to get slower because guess what? Everyone is doing about the same thing. Buying up the same ingredients at the grocery store, going to the liquor store (yes – we have that in Canada) and dashing for presents. It seems you can’t count on anything being in supply only a lot more traffic than usual. However, being the cookie-baking oracle that I am, I have a few tips that I share with you if only as a reminder for myself….

1. Envision the road ahead. It works for performance athletes and it can work for you too. Envision traffic flowing, parking spots showing up and weary sales staff still offering help and a smile. Imagine all of your tasks, and lists easily coming together. I did this myself a year or two ago on a Saturday close to Christmas– apparently one of the year’s busiest shopping days and waltzed through Canadian Tire, Source City, The Liquor Store and the No Frill grocery store in just under 2.5 hours! I got everything on my list AND not only that, got a perfect parking spot the first time at each of my stops. Also found a great gift idea for a hard to buy person on my list (shhh don’t tell – hope you aren’t reading this blog) serendipitously.

2. Use your gut sense intuition. There is a part of us that already knows, that has a calling card to the near future and that can inform us with information we need for good decisions in the moment. To access it, we need to let go of our ego need for looking good, being right and perhaps being perfect. Your gut sense is there to let you know things like, take a ten minute nap and you will be able to enjoy all the company arriving, or that a large empty box for a child with a few small stuffed toys is probably going to bring more delight and smiles than the expensive toy that leaves little to the imagination. If you are feeling confused about some choices in the mad holiday rush, remember to ask “What is my gut telling me? How does my body feel about the options?”

3. Invoke the Angels. Call it the power of prayer or belief in the great beyond, but I have always found that angels are here to help. I also don’t ask enough. But if you do, you will notice little miracles showing up that collectively at the end of the day will make you feel like you are being helped by invisible forces. I invoke the help of angels for others all the time – the news stories that tug at my heart, the homeless that I feel helpless to help but do my best, I invoke angels to help me – find addresses, deal with computer ghosts and gremlins, – all kinds of things. Whenever I do, the path seems to light up. Things get easier. I hear bells ringing like in the movie – It’s a Wonderful Life. They are standing by right now waiting for your requests. What do you need?

4. Let it Go – Where can you let go of a position, a have to have, a preconceived idea of what would make the holidays the best ever for you ? Just let it go. Focus on what you can do, but most of all the people in your life. The confluence of family gatherings ( or in this covid year the angst of having no gathering), can bring out unresolved tensions or grievances from Christmas’s past. Where can you exercise forgiveness and just let a position go? Hanging on just to be right will drain your energy and throw up road blocks in other areas.

5. Send Your Love – The heart chakra energy of love can melt all negativity. Sure you may be the one who was wronged, who deserves more etc. However, when you send your hearts love you help others become coherent and heal. It comes back as love for you too. Strengthen your heart during the holiday season by circulating your love to others if only in your thoughts. This does not necessarily mean a shopping trip. To send your love imagine a stream of pink light radiating from your heart. Create a trail of light from your heart to another and send your light and love. Keep it to yourself for good measure and notice how people around you start to change. It will add to your mix of a rewarding holiday season.

6. Remember Your Connection to the World – think of the world as a person and ask yourself how they are doing? Remember that we are in an official world wide pandemic and that even with the vaccine miracle, the worst is likely not over for many parts of the world. Many are suffering and not coping as well as you are. Kindness and compassion are the watchwords of this season. Use these qualities liberally and every chance you get. Send blessings to the front line workers making deliveries including the mail. Appreciate the health care workers who are emotionally stressed and going the distance to save loved ones. Forgive the non coherent acts of others that seem selfish and unkind… they are likely barely coping. You can be a beacon of light for the world and create positive change with the power of your thoughts and your kindness. All we can do is our part to socially distance, wear a mask and stay safe as much as possible.

Hope these tips help you to enjoy the holiday season.

With love and light,

Carolyn

Ps - join me at the (free) winter solstice group session on Mon Dec 21St for added support . Register here

Who do you need to forgive? Use the blessings of the fall season!

Carolyn Winter — Wed, 09 Dec 2020 21:00:00 GMT

Forgive, Let Go, Acknowledge - - take a last look at Metal Element Seasonal qualities to support your energy field

When we are in synch with seasonal energies we have the wind at our back, helping us to move forward with ease and grace. In the northern hemisphere we are coming to the final weeks of the the fall season and the metal element time of year.

There are a number of qualities associated with metal element including forgiveness in the sense of letting go, acknowledgement and appreciation. Many popular movie scripts run on these two plot lines! Invoke the energy of the season by playing with these qualities within yourself. By playing, I mean noticing how they show up in your thoughts and actions and try something new. Navigate your personal holographic universe with these suggestions and questions for reflection:

Who do you need to forgive? - unresolved hurts tend to show up for us during the holidays when having to deal with social invitations and situations. Who or what are you avoiding because of an unresolved situation or who do you need to forgive? End the year with a fresh start by clearing the air where you can. It will be a courageous action on your part. That alone generates enormous energy.

What do you need to forgive yourself for? - we all make mistakes but when you can't let go that kind of self-criticism, it festers and can render debilitating energy for anything else you would like to create in your life. Admit your mistakes and look for the lessons that they taught you. Add those learnings to your daily positive update on your life story!

What do you most regret this past year? - this question will give you an energetic heads up on New Years resolutions. Naming our regrets and letting them go, similar to forgiveness, clears space in our brain, as we let out all those old sinking feelings of things that did not work out for us. The "letting go" quality of metal element will help you with this activity. Make a list of your regrets and take some deep healing breathes and then throw that piece of paper away.

When you reflect or journal on any of the above questions notice your feeling state and body tension. Chances are you already feel better.

What is good about you? Too many of us have spent too much time beating ourselves up over our imperfections. Acknowledging what is good takes more of a conscious effort. Make self acknowledgement a new thinking habit. For example, end your work day with a quick run through in your mind of what you accomplished and what went well and reward all your listening brain cells with a heart felt positive "YES!!! I did that!" or "What a great job!" "Today I outdid myself!". Initially your brain may be a little confused to hear your frequent positive acknowledgements, but if you stick with it you will rarely dial yourself down with negative thoughts again.

What do you need to open the space for in your life? - Qualities of Forgiveness, Letting Go and Appreciation/Acknowledgement tends to create new space for us energetically. What new thing in your life will you fill it with? Dust off your Life Vision Intention and update your next steps, next project, next move.

Energize your reflections for a final metal element boost with this Lung Meridian (part of metal element) exercise:

Breath out your regrets and past hurts from others
breath in forgiveness for yourself and others
Breath in acknowledge for all the good things about yourself and feel the expanded space for what is most important to you going forward.

Forgive - Let Go - Acknowledge - Expand Your Thoughts.

For an added boost to your metal element use the group session recording for The Fall Equinox Repatterning (free)

Enjoy navigating your personal holographic universe!

With light and love

Carolyn Winter
Holographic Coach

Patterns of Family Belonging - Are Your Loyalties Holding You Back?

Carolyn Winter — Wed, 02 Dec 2020 20:00:00 GMT

Perhaps one of the strongest human life needs for survival is a sense of belonging particularly to our family or group. Many cultures have traditionally had strict rules for the behavior and loyalties of family members that govern the life we live. In fact according to Family Constellation author, the late Bert Hellinger, every family system is ruled by its collective consciousness of unspoken rules. Most of us are unaware the rules exist but we obey them just the same.

The rules govern how we show loyalty in our work, career, relationships, enjoyment of life, our health and more. They are also unconscious or invisible but like a computer virus, they run our brain and make autonomic decisions for us and creating feelings of shame, guilt or embarrassment if we break them.

Originally all rules were set to keep family members safe, reinforce their group identity and create a sense of personal power. You see this strongly displayed when there is a world cup soccer tournament and everyone is cheering for their group's team.

However, when we outgrow our groups rules we may find it difficult to pursue our dreams and goals if they now exceed the limits of our group. We can find ourselves hanging onto negative patterns or ways of being that demonstrates our love and loyalty to the group at the price of de-energizing our own life circumstances.

In order to grow, an individual is often faced with the prospect of breaking the rules of the family or group. Its a wretched state where we can feel very very guilty. The guilt can be so prohibitive that we may give up on our own goals in order to remain an approved member. Our growth stops. If we do pursue our goals and dreams our sense of guilt will eventually sabotage our efforts.

What can we do???? Spend time in reflection where you review the recent decisions you have made and become aware of how your groups rules helped you make a decision. Notice if you made the decision willingly or out of a sense of obligation or to not let your family down. Particularly if you made a decision you where you said 'yes' to something when you would rather have said 'no'... did you say yes to keep your family system happy? Resolve to make a better choice to support yourself in the future.

I also offer specific Family Constellation repatternings where these issues are specifically addressed. We'll identify the non-coherent family patterns that you are ready to let go of and demonstrate your love and loyalty to your family with new more positive ways of being. When you resonate with healthier ways of belonging and being loyal, your family system will receive the energy of your new vibratory state, and the new way of being. Over time, the rules for belonging are updated and expanded. Your personal growth and love for family then helps everyone grow. Over time, the sense of guilt will also fade away.

What goal or intention do you have that you feel is blocked by your family ties and unconscious group rules?

In what ways do you feel held back by your family?

with love and light

Carolyn

PS - For added support access this topic as a webinar at the PHD (Personal Holographic Discoveries) Archive Page. Access over 12 repatterning sessions with a variety of topics. Join as a premium member for $99/year to access.

Have Covid Fatigue? Pssst... Your future is whispering to you.

Carolyn Winter — Thu, 26 Nov 2020 20:35:01 GMT

Are you experiencing covid fatigue? Many are and I must admit there have been a few days where my own energy sent me straight back to repatternings. I contemplated the session notes with interest and in an delightful afternoon turned things around for myself. Here's how in case you would like to try it for yourself.

Imagine we are down the road a bit, say 2-3 years from now. Life is back to normal or a 'new normal'. Ask yourself a couple of questions from that point in time:

What did I do with my time during the lock-downs? Was it productive or did I waste it? Did i succumb to being a victim or look for new opportunities?

What goals did i set and meet or exceed past my wildest dreams?

What do I regret about the use of my time back then?

Your future may well be whispering to you today about the inherent opportunities that accompany any problem including the covid lock down. Perhaps its time for a career change? Can you take online courses, contact people, or do a job search. If your work has been face to face maybe your future is giving you hints about taking at least part of your work online? With so many free or low cost platforms its possible for just about anyone to start selling anything online. In what ways could you re-invent your work?

Your future may be whispering other ideas for coping with covid in terms of using your time...

What new thing can you start for yourself - writing a book? screen play? cookbook? family history? take up a hobby?

What new habits can you start? Better home keeping? less screen time?new exercise regime? listening more talking less?

How can you keep up with family or friends or work colleagues?

What difference can you make to your community with the resources you have at hand?

For myself I decided that i would use this time to get to the bottom of my sewing inventory ( a combination of clothes, quilting and crafts) with the intention of becoming a couturier sewer. Those that know me well, know how challenging (or hilarious) that goal is. LOL.... but I have to say that so far, I have at least created one perfectly fitted t-shirt pattern that I can now sew up in a few hours. I was so happy that day I could not sleep!

I also remind myself of how lucky I am to be safe especially when i read about those are are suffering in the hospital or have died or those dedicated individuals working on the front line. Staying home, staying safe and making sacrifices now are important. This meme /winning haiku poem from Facebook says it all for me:

Try it for yourself - cope with covid fatigue by listening to your future or have an entire conversation with it. Start with some meditation and then ask your future for its advice. Embrace all the big ideas you may hear! You never know what big thing this could lead to for your you.

With love and light

Carolyn

PS - if you are a member here at www.LightTravels.com login and update your profile with your life vision intention. Your future may have lots to say about it!

Also if you missed the recent PHD: Career Leaps to Greatness repatterning it is available at the STORE as a webinar and may also help you with your present moment goals.

Do Something Good...

Carolyn Winter — Wed, 11 Nov 2020 18:36:14 GMT

Today is Remembrance day here in Canada. It is no coincidence that it falls in the metal element time of year where qualities of value, respect, and appreciation are energized. My appreciation goes to the families whose loved one were lost so that we could have a life of freedom.

It is a day when I think of how fortunate my grandparents were to come to this country at the early part of the last century and to live a life of relative peace and security; how lucky I am to be part of the next generations taking root here and how grateful I am to those that served.

The complex energies of all of us together that make up this country and make it a great place to live, comes from individuals like you and me all doing our part. In my mind to balance the exchange of energy between ourselves and the those who have made great sacrifices we need to pledge to do something good with our lives and do what we can to keep the peace within ourselves and for each other.

With light and love

Carolyn

What's The Story Behind Your Life Vision Intention?

Carolyn Winter — Sat, 17 Oct 2020 19:18:43 GMT

Have you written out your Life Vision Intention on your Light Travels membership profile? Whether you have or not, your answer will give you a clue and shed light on your journey navigating your personal holographic universe.

The point of exploring the patterns within our self and clearing up the non-coherent patterns that are no longer working for us, is so that we can experience our self as living a happy life with happy endings each day and anticipate that we are at the beginning of something wonderful! We are able to look at our lives and say.... "My life makes sense to me so far!"

In the beginning, our journey can be quite challenging as we manage the ups and downs of life. The key word here is 'manage' because everything we encounter begs us to have some way of dealing with it - a way to manage relationships (significant other, parents, siblings, friends, colleagues etc.) manage time, manage a home, finances etc. But much of our responses to life are done by default - we just act and rarely think about it. Our actions are driven by our beliefs, values, and past experiences - both coherent and non-coherent. As we move forward in life, our unexamined actions can cause us many conflicts, betrayals, or unsatisfying results with life. As time passes, these patterns may become hopelessly entangled. We simply don't know why we are unhappy.

The life challenges we don't fully recover from may cause us to lose sight of our Life Vision or Purpose and we can feel that life is meaningless. We may get stuck in rut, feel negative about most things, self-critical or judgmental and anticipate life with fear or anxiety. Some express this as being out of touch with their higher self or their soul. Or it may well be that our Light Travels membership profile lacks a vision statement!

The optimistic thought about navigating a personal holographic universe, is that we can not only move towards our ideal life vision but we have the ability to create happy stories about our life along the way that will help to create it. Psychologists call it a coherent autonomous autobiographical narrative for our life. (Say that fast 3 times in row! LOL)

Our brain is always anticipating the future with a story of future possibilities AND we are the center of that story. However, it builds on the stories we have already archived about ourselves from the past. What are those stories? How can we reframe the negative ones and think of them as valuable experiences that gave us a gift of some kind.

I think of the movie "Slum Dog Millionaire" as a great example of this. The hero, Jamal Malik answers a police interrogation with one story of his life after another to help make sense of his winning status on the TV show "Who Wants to be a Millionaire?” It portrays how taking every negative experience and looking for the gift or the good it brings us, creates a cumulative effect for anticipating something good happening in our lives.

The Jamal character demonstrates for us the way to move forward on our life vision no matter how dire our circumstances. In every present moment that we experience, we have a point of choice to act on. Choose to see the best of every moment and make it positive because each present moment experience becomes a story we tell ourselves that the brain now archives. We want the complete collection of our life stories that the brain is accessing to be (at least on balance) positive, optimistic, compassionate, understanding, and encouraging - YES!!! ...a coherent autonomous autobiographical narrative for our life!

When we can access the best of who we are - our Life Vision is easy to formulate and we magically move forward towards its manifestation. Like Jamal says in the movie..."It is written."

Practice creating your amazing life story by writing out your Life Vision Intention. Start small with 2-3 sentences beginning with "I am moving towards my ideal life where...." and fill in the rest. Notice how you feel at the end.

For Further support, I warmly invite you to explore your Life Vision and to resonate with the stories that help you to move forward.

With light and love

Carolyn

Acknowledgement - With curiosity I have heard the term a "coherent autonomous autobiographical narrative for our life." a few times in the past but finally understood its full meaning in terms of healing inspired by a "Witt & Wisdom" podcast at www.IntegralLife.com with Dr. Keith Witt and Corey Devos. "Creating a Coherent Life Story". I am so grateful!

Our Point of Choice

Carolyn Winter — Tue, 15 Sep 2020 19:30:00 GMT

Every present moment offers us a point of choice to spiral our energy up towards happiness, relaxation, valuing ourselves and others, being energized and experiencing inner peace, calm, confidence and love.

Equally, we also have the choice to spiral down on a continuum of darkness that includes upset and tension, being reactive and angry, blaming and complaining, being afraid and depressed. When we have unresolved non coherent patterns buzzing around in our field of energy such as

unmet life needs for safety, protection from harm, respect, love, or meaning to name a few,
unresolved earlier experiences,
inherited non coherent energy patterns...

...we can feel like a victim. In that state we tend to compound our patterns and spiral further down. Life can feel miserable. We are totally out of touch with our point of choice.

But as singer song writer Leonard Cohen wrote ".. there is a crack in everything, that's how the light gets in". In our deepest state of despair we can take the smallest of steps to redirect our energy and spiral upwards. Resonating with that upward movement is key.

We live in a causal world where everything can affect everything else. What can we do to spiral our energy up? Simply state our intention (in the present tense) "I am happy" "I am confident" "I am love" etc and select a healing option to put energy in our field in support of our intention.

What healing option? Practice asking yourself "what would energize my intention in this very moment? What one thing could I listen to? Smell? say out loud? or what one small micro movement could I take? For me, sometimes it's as simple as tidying up a desk top or putting away one book. It may be you need a short walk, 5 minutes of exercise or that meditation you learned to do online. Ask your inner self and an answer will pop in. Go with the first positive doable thing you hear. Notice how you feel following through.

In Holographic Coaching, I use muscle checking and a map of options to determine the best action customized for you and your situation today. Different options may check out for the same circumstances on a different day or for another person. Your higher self directs the choices and makes recommendations in the muscle checking process. It's highly customized.

When we come into an awareness of our point of choice or at least 'fake til we make it' we ignite new qualities in our life - we may feel empowered, lighter, optimistic and confident. We are also better at noticing when we slip backwards and are better able to reverse any downward spiraling course.

Navigate your personal holographic universe... Become aware of your point of choice. Throughout the day take a 1-2 minute pause and ask yourself "am i spiraling up or down?" Act on your point of choice. Re-assert your positive intention of where you are going next. Keep it simple. Intuit one small action you may take to spiral up. Notice how you feel. Take a breath and notice yourself noticing your point of choice. It's a small step with inner bigness!

With love and light

Carolyn

What Happens Energetically When We Exclude a Family Member?

Carolyn Winter — Thu, 03 Sep 2020 21:11:23 GMT

Introducing Family Constellation work and repatterning

One of the more fascinating aspects I have learned in repatterning work is the proliferation of patterns that are 'inherited' frequencies from other family members going back many generations. A body of work by Bert Hellinger, known as Family Constellation work, identifies the underlying energy principles that must be adhered to by a family system in order to create coherent supportive energy that flows to each member, in a particular order.

A problem created in one generation that goes unresolved tends to surface in subsequent generations with other family members. It has become a pattern that the family conscience works toward finding a resolution with the most available family member. It can be confusing to the present members, especially if they take care of themselves, do lots of inner work and find that certain problems still persist.

You can get a sense of a system that is in order by looking at an image of a family tree from genealogy. Each generation is typically pictured on its own line. There are rules for where members are placed on each line. Try it for yourself.

Sketch out a quick draft of your immediate family tree. Arrange family member names in a 'tree' with grandparents on a top line, your parents on line 2 underneath them and you and your siblings on a 3rd line under your parents. Don't leave anyone out (no matter your reason) - all souls must be included in a family system for high coherence. Look at this image and notice how you feel. If looking at a brief mini version of your family tree does not energize you, then chances are it is affecting some area of your life. You may have systemic energy blocks that you will find useful to identify and at least neutralize negative charge it has for you.

There are a number of energy rules governing a family system - order, soul weight, inclusion, a balance of giving and receiving, systemic loyalties and more. These energy principals underlie a set of Family Constellation repatterings I use in my work that many clients find exceptionally valuable as they explore their personal holographic universe more deeply.

There are a few topics we can explore in the PHD (Personal Holographic Discoveries) monthly group sessions using Family Constellation Repatternings. I call these topics "ANCESTRAL ECHOES". We'll begin with the "Including the Excluded" repatterning.

Has someone in your immediate family or in a past generation been excluded - meaning we do not talk about them, removed their picture from the family album, stop inviting them etc. What happens to the family system when we energetically exclude a member? No matter how much they deserve it, there are energetic consequences. Explore this pattern for yourself and join us for the next PHD session Click Here for Details. There is likely a whole river of energy waiting to flow into your life when the block is cleared!

With love and light

Carolyn

What is so special about having a life vision, purpose or passion?

Carolyn Winter — Thu, 09 Jul 2020 17:29:18 GMT

There is something very special about having a vision, knowing and acting on our purpose and passions or at least being able to keep adding to our life story and making sense of our daily life events. In a generation or two gone by, that vision or purpose was inaccessible to most people, as family, church or state dictated our lives. We were happiest when our clan was happy and we did what was expected of us. Individuals often had to live their lives through the expectations of others suppressing any desires to lead a different life. A lack of personal happiness would often lead to non coherent behaviors as work-around solutions. The eldest son expected to take over the family business instead of following his dream of higher education is a common example or women expected to marry, have children and avoid a career altogether is another.

Today, personal happiness has swung the other way and is much more valued in society. In fact with the pressure to be personally happy, many are at a loss to know what that means. In my practice I often receive the complaint from clients lamenting they are out of touch with their true purpose. Not knowing or resonating with our vision or purpose we easily fall victim to life's circumstances.

We have the opportunity to make thousands of choices each day . Each choice we make either enhances our life story or invisibly creates chaos and upset moves towards non coherence when we are out of touch with our purpose. We make decisions so fast that we rarely stop to think of how they fit in with our values and direction we want to take our life. If our overall life vision, purpose or passions are undefined OR worse we know them but do not resonate with them, our life tends to take a course dictated by circumstances or other people. By acting on choices in a field of resonance that supports a life vision, we are supported in mastering the present moment and organically create a life of fulfillment that drives us toward our vision. A feeling of happiness, contentment and fulfillment often accompanies this field of resonance. We feel at home within ourselves.

Author Ginnie Whitelaw says 'Everything is energy... resonance is how we shape it"

Having a life vision and resonating with your life vision helps you to consciously shape each present moment with decisions that support your life vision. Life starts working out ... better than expected! However, we must take the time to reflect on what that vision (or purpose or passion) is, and become aware of how we act on it each day. What gets in our way? What decisions are in conflict with our vision? How are we unconsciously blocking the manifestation of our vision?

Activate life vision at www.LightTravels.com. If you are a LightTravels.com member, you are invited to add your vision to your profile to keep your vision in your awareness as you use the site. Access the power of group energy and add your intention to any of the group sessions here at Light Travels. Notice how incrementally, you are moving towards your life vision often in unexpected, unexplained ways.

With love and light

Carolyn

What are your 3 good things that happened for you today?

Carolyn Winter — Fri, 22 May 2020 02:31:25 GMT

With the pandemic fears have most of us still living a cautious scaled back life, our eyes now drained from online zoom visits and each day blurring into the next it is important to focus on our field of energy to stay in that spiralled up state where we can experience the best of our circumstances. One fabulous energy tool to support this principle is the active act of daily appreciation. The intention I like to suggest we resonate with is:

“I appreciate 3 good things that happened for me today.”

There is a lot written about the benefits of having an attitude of gratitude, but perhaps one of the most amazing facts is how it can be used to tame the tiger within called anxiety or fear. When we spend as little as 3 minutes appreciating ourselves, our loved ones, the people we work with, the day, the weather, our neighbor, a home cooked meal or a restaurant treat, our vehicle, mother nature and anything else you can think of …. amazing things start happening in our brain. A chemical is released which anchors and expands our feelings of gratitude and squeezes out or cancels fear and anxiety.

The more we practice verbalizing and thinking about how grateful we are, we become more calm and relaxed, handling challenges with ease. If life challenges seem really overwhelming and that there is little to be grateful for, start with the smallest thing – the weather, your home, your pet etc.In the beginning, our fear and anxiety button may feel more real and easier to engage than being grateful. Saying gratitude statements may feel less than genuine.

However, I encourage you to hang in and keep flinging gratitude statements whenever you can. Soon your outward experience will come zooming home with positive results. For example, I noticed that when driving, if I forgive those road ragers or overly aggressive drivers and focus on the great roads, the clear map directions, the gift of GPS, how wonderful the city is for maintaining the roads etc. my actual driving experience returns some delightful surprises – very convenient parking spaces, the traffic cop waving me through a construction area unexpectedly, drivers being courteous and traffic flowing better than usual.

Keep your attitude of gratitude sharp. Quick name 3 good things that have happened for you today:

Here are mine: I am grateful that today

1. was a beautiful warm sunny day here in Toronto with a gentle breeze that kept my apartment cool.

2. a friend that sent over a home cooked dinner (so that i didn't have to cook)

3. That i made the time to work on a long standing sewing project revitalizing old pillow cases with new trims, recycing a sheet to make ruffles. (it was a fun project that helped me to integrate a new pattern of spending time doing creative things)

How about you? What 3 good things that have happened for you today?

with love and light

Carolyn

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